Aug-00-2005 - Questions here were Answered in this month

[Unregistered]

I am a new Muslimah, who is extremely confused about her marriage. I would beg you to try to give me the true guidance of the religion of Allah suitable for my complicated situation. So, 2,5 years ago I met a Muslim man. He was not practising Islam too much at this time, for example, he did not pray…He became my boyfriend. Almost one year we were friends, engaged in intimate relations. I knew that he is Muslim, but I had no idea what Islam is and that we were committing sins…This man was extremely good to me and no other man had been so loving to me before, that’s why I fell in love with him and was very serious about my relationship with him! Everything was going very well, till suddenly, after 1 year, my boyfriend run out of money and had big difficulties with his work and studies, and I guess then he remembered Allah stronger. And he remembered that he was committing sin with me without a marriage (Zinaa) and he started praying at this time under the influence of one of his Muslim friends. Also, under his friend’s influence, he decided to marry me, so that he would not commit Zinaa any more. He was not ready to marry at all. He was and still is a foreigner in Germany, a student who cannot provide enough living even for himself…Also, psychologically, he was not and I think till now is not mature for a family life! And the Imam, who married us, advised him to marry me in order to stop sinning with me. Later on, he said he was not ready to marry me, but he did it under this influence. At the beginning I didn’t want to marry him as I was not Muslima and had no idea of Islam this time, and also, I wanted to marry after we both are ready for a marriage. Besides that, I was with western thinking that time and I didn’t care about creating a family, having children, etc. I cared about creating a career, so I did not think too much that my boyfriend could not offer me a real family…Actually my boyfriend threatened me to leave me if I do not marry him, so I had no choice. At this time the situation got even more complicated as I got pregnant…My boyfriend did not want the child, and although I wanted to retain the child, I decided that I cannot do it on my own only, so I had to make an abortion. I decided to marry him only to retain him as I was in love with him too much that time…But this marriage did not mean anything to me. All I cared that time was my love to him and his love to me. So we married Islamic marriage as I was still pregnant. After a few weeks, I made an abortion. This incident destroyed a lot of my trust and love to this man, but it was still at the time when I had almost no idea of Islam.

Recently I learned something new, that a Muslim man is allowed to marry a Christian woman, but only if she is chaste. And was not. The other problem is that I am not sure if I was a real Christian that time. As I was not satisfied with Christianity, I started researching eastern religions and I could not call myself a believer, as far as I remember. The man confirmed however, that I had said that I was Christian. And also, I just read that it is not allowed to marry if the woman is pregnant…I see we did a lot of sins and went against the laws of Allah too far, and now I question the validity of this marriage!


Afterwards, as I lived some time with my husband, I observed his lifestyle, his religion, and I got interested in Islam. Exactly at this time, Allah sent me a trial; I broke my foot twice within 3 months and was confined to bed for 2-3 months. I used this time to read Qurán for the first time and to educate myself about Islam. My husband also took care to teach me Islam. He bought me the Qurán, some other books and videos. So step by step, I got convinced that Islam is the only right way and eventually I accepted Islam some months later.

As I was learning Islam, I noticed that my husband did a lot of haram things with me and that our marriage is not a real Islamic marriage. My husband does not have the means to create a family and he forbids me from having children, which I wish since long time, and which makes me really very very sad. He also says he is still young for a family, and he is not ready, not mature for a family life! We are 27 years old! I understand that he is very poor, but I do not understand why he does not try to find a means to support his family. He prefers to stay with his friends, most of whom are non-practising Muslims, and not very good Muslims, to waste his time…He does not even try to find a means. I feel I cannot devote myself fully to my religion because of these constant problems and stress.

So, after a while , after I demanded my rights from him, he told me he cannot provide me with a family and we should divorce. One day he would want me back, one day, he would want to divorce me. He said he loves me a lot, and because he loves me he wants to divorce me as I deserve a better man than him! And he would be happy if I marry a good Muslim man. In addition, he told me he would search for a man for me and told me that I should also look for a man for myself, which I started without knowing it was wrong to do it in this moment! Then I walked away from him as I could not bear any more. But we met each other sometimes, as we still have feelings to each other. I just read a few days ago and was also told by the sheikh who married us, that it was wrong. After a divorce I have to wait 3 months before starting a new relationship with a man, which I did unknowingly in the meanwhile. Actually, I am not sure if we have a divorce at all, also if we were married at all!!

I am very grateful to this man because he brought me to Islam and he was very kind and extremely patient with me when I was still Kafr (I was a difficult Kafr), but I think I cannot go on in such a relation any more. I also feel guilt if I leave him, it´s like ingratitude—the man brought me to Islam and I turn my back on him when he has difficulties! But he is definitely not my dream Muslim man. And I am very confused, as I was a different woman before accepting Islam, and now I am a new woman after Islam! Please, give me some guidance!

[Unregistered]

Salam sister. I read your letter and I feel for you. It was heart wrenching as I realise once again we as human beings are fallible and how fragile we are (smile). We all go thru trials and tributlations, we all make mistakes, we all somehow learn from them. Allah is so great, merciful, so loving, yet we somehow take it for granted...we forget He alone can punish us for what we do in this duniya, we forget how powerful He is, we forget that FEAR we should always have when about to do something (smile).

My sister, inshaAllah everything will be alright for you, I will keep you in my thoughts/duas..we all need each other's duas for sure..I pray that Allah s.w.t. help you out now in all your situations and that he grants you peace and prosperity in this duniya and the akhirat..

Take care and be well.

Your Sister in Islam.

[aboosafar]

Q.) are the ahaadeeth pertaining to the people of jannah being without facial hair saheeh, if so are we to understand these ahaadeeth to indicate that men will not have beards in jannah and if so, how do we reconcile this with the fact that the beard is one of attributes which distinguish men from women?

(to admin. please let me know if the question will be submitted to the shuyookh in this manner, or if I need to wait for the thread for then next lecture to be put up, wa jazaakallaahu khairan)

[islamaholic]

Assalamualaykum sis,
i was just visiting this forum and came accross your situation, my heart goes out to you. Is there no way that your husband practises islam, so that you can remain with him? He seems like a goo person if he wants the best for you, i think you should continue to be good to him, and inshallah Allah will guide him, regardless of your efforts. I suggest you read two rakat salah and ask from Allah, He will listen to your call.

ma-asalam :)

[Unregistered]

Assalaamu alaykum

Can a muslim make dua for a non muslim, other then the one where one askes Allah(Subhana wa ta'ala) to guide them(the non muslim) to Al-Islam?????

Baraka Allahu Feekum

[chicamuslima514]

Bismiallah
I’m seeking advise on a issue that I have come across. Two your Muslim brother one 13 and the other 12 live in the same house the 13 year old want to engage in sexual activity with the 12 year old. The 12 year old is afraid to tell his father about the problem. The 13 year old threat the 12 year old if he had told his father about the sexual activities he would tell lies on the 12 year old and his father would punish him for the activities they engaged in. That’s why the 12 year old did not come forward and speaking about this issue. I would like to know if the 13 year old is consider to be gay? He is showing gay behavior such as wearing lipstick, feeling on men, acting like a female. Is the 13 year old still Muslim does his actions take him out of Islam? I’m asking the scholars what do they advise me to do?
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[ma_cherie]

I had an abortion when I was about 4 to 5 weeks pregnant. I did not inform my husband that I was pregnant and to this day he is ignorant of the abortion.

I had the abortion for selfish reason as I was going on an outward bound trip for a month which I know that in my pregnant state I would not be able to do the rigorous activities required at the outward bound camp.

I have regretted the abortion since. I had prayed to Allah for forgiveness but it is still on my mind and I continue to feel guilty of my action.

What other things can I do to atone for this sin?

[abuabdulla]

When i was in college we use to watch bad movies,
which shows that man kiss/lick women's private parts(including ******)
Is it allowed if i kiss/lick my wife private parts

[abuabdulla]

Assalam alaikum
is tahajud salah was obligatory on mohammed(SAW)
i.e 6 times namaz

zajak Allah

[Unregistered]

As salaamu 'alaykum,
Yaa Shaykhunaa,
Is "Tayseerul 'Allaam" in Sharh 'Umdatul Ahkaam, from the recommended books to study and could you provide us with a brief backround of the book.

Jazaakallaahu khairan.

[Aaishah]

As-Salaamu 'alaykum wa'rahmatullaahi wa'barakaatuhu,
I pray this message reaches you all in good health and eemaan, Allaahuma Aameen.

O Noble Mashaykh, may Allaah the Most High preserve you, for you are indeed the inheritors of the Prophets (may the peace and blessings of Allaah be upon them all).

I would like to ask two questions, In sha Allaah'talaa.

1) What is the permissibility of a woman taking a kunya before she gets married or has any children?

2) What is the ruling on getting married via the internet/telephone with two (male) witnesses present? And if this is still permissible but disliked, what are the conditions to make it 100% valid in the eyes of Allaah the Majestic?

May Allaah keep us firm upon this blessed manhaj, Aameen.

Jazaakallaahu khayran, Baraakallaahu feekum.

--Aaishah bint Adel Ahmed
New York, NY USA

[Unregistered]

If a muslimah commits adultery(and admits to it) after being put in iddah and ends up pregnant is the ex husband responsible to maintain her during this iddah and will he be responsible for the baby?

[Unregistered]

I really need to know about my situation, it has caused me a great deal of hardship and heartache as well as my children. I have two young boys who were taken from me to stay with their father. I have remarried. Before this happened, we signed a contract that said different things such as the father pays 300 dollars a month for child support, which i only recieved once out of almost a year, mashaallah......and that he will only pay for half of their school tuiton when they start school. But one thing it also said was that they would go to live with him when the youngest boy turned 7,---hes 3 now, but only if this is what they decided. My children have expressed many times that they want to come home....and I am very concerened with the enviroment in the home as far as deen. I want my children to be raised with correct aqeedah and manhaj, and with the least amount of poison from the kuffar such as excessive tv watching where they learn about things that are haram and listening to music, among other similar issues. My question is urgent and im in need of some answers,inshaallah- My children are noticebly suffering from being far away from me for a long periond of time and also from their enviroment having little islam practiced. My questions summed up are, ...... What happens to children who are boys and under 7,when their mother and father are divorced but the parents sign a contract under the supervision of an imam that states the boys will go to live with the father when the youngest turn 7....only if they want to or they decide this is where they want to be. secondly, if one of the parents actively particpates in jamatul tabligh and allows the children to be exposed to learning about the haram and seeing the haram,with no sense of regretfullness or shyness, should they still come first in bringing up the children. BarakAllah feekum

[shahid78]

Can a mature (Adult) boy and a mature(adult) girl get a love marriage or liking by marriage to each other in islam.

[Unregistered]

As-Salaamu 'Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh,

I was just wondering what style of Qur'aan Recitation is Sheikh 'Abdur-Rahmaan As-Sudays (Al Imaam of Masjid Al Haram in Makkah)

Ya'nee: is it Hafs, Warsh, etc. ?

and also...

where did he learn his style of recitation and Hifdh of Qur'aan?




Jazaakum-Allaah Khairan

Ibn Muneer

[Unregistered]

As-Salaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi,

Allah cover the faults of those as long as they don't expose their sins. As for you telling your husband this might cause a resentment from your husband to you. Get up in the third hours of the night and ask Allah to forgive you. Allah says who want to come to me and ask for forgiveness so I can forgive them. Allah forgives all sins before the soul reaches the throat. However their are conditions that must be met and I would just list one of them. You have to be sincere and have the remores that you will never return back to that sin again. However, this question need a more detail explanation such as how many week were you etc. And Allah knows best...

[Unregistered]

Salaamu Alaikum,

We the Salafees of NY seek the advice of our noble scholars in trying to build a community. We live in a place of constant fitnah, but try our best to cling to the manhaj of the salaf. So please advise us in the matter.

Barakallahu Feekum,

[Unregistered]

My Noble Sheikh ! I Love You For The Sake Of Allah And May Allah Preserve You.

1.there Is A Hadeeth That Says "if We Go Out In The Morning To Masjid For Learning Or Teaching We Get A Reward Equivalent To Hajj".
My Question Is That "do We Get That Reward During Any Time Of The Day Or In The Morning Only"?

[Abdullah Hajar]

Oh Shaykh, May Allah preserve you and continue to make you of benefit to the Muslims, aameen.

As Salaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakaatuhu,

My family and I have made hijrah, currently reside in the kingdom and have been here for three years. Three of my children (ages 11, 9 and 7) from a previous marriage are also living with me. Their mother and I agreed that they would be with me and during the school year and that she would have access to them in the summers. She, their mother, resides in the states. Being a place of great fitan, especially during the summer, my current wife and I thought it to better for all parties that the mother come to the kingdom during the summer. I would pay for two plane tickets ( for her and her mahram) and provide lodging in a furnished apartment in Makkah so that she can spend time with her children during the summer in addition to being able to perform Umrah. The problem on her end is, she doesn't have enough money to bring her children (from another marriage) with her so that they can see their siblings.

Question: Is this a better alternative to going to the states or am I obliged to take them to the states so that they can see their entire family? If I am obliged, what is the maximum length of time we can remain in the states before having to return to the kingdom?

Barakullahu feek.

[Nasirah]

As Salaamu Alaikum Wa Rahmahtullahi Wa Barakatuh]
The believer must keep their private parts extremely clean at all times but especially at the time of prayer in order to make wudu/prayer, so I would be interested to know and would appreciate it, if you would ask the shaykh about this matter for me.

I know of someone under medical supervision who is suffering from a long term illness and that has brought about the medical condition of incontinence. This person often finds themselves not in control of Urine or Bowel movement drainage and as such, is not able to come clean enough to make proper wudu/ salaat at the time salaat is in.

This person tries to make up missed salat in the moments they are clean enough to make wudu, but often go for a whole day or more without making salaat, afraid to incur Allah's anger for offering salaat in an impure condition, yet afraid that missing salaat is incuring Allah's anger, not knowing what they should do or the expiation for such matters.
It is a source of mental anguish.
Please advise.
May Allah grant you a good reward.

Nasirah

[Sadiyah]

As salaam alaikum warahmatullahi wa barakatu,

I am wondering what is the permissibility of living wills (a legal document confirming your wishes to not be kept alive if you are in a persistent vegetative state and to assign someone, i.e. the husband or wife, to be the administrator of that decision). Jazakullahu khairun.

Sadiyah

[ma_cherie]

Allaikum Salam Warahmatullah Wa Barakah,

Thank you sir for your reply. I was then about 3 to 4 weeks pregnant, still in the early stage.

I know my husband. He will not understand and forgive me if I inform him and I have decided not to let my husband know and this will be my sin alone to bear. Am I wrong not to inform my husband? Do I have to seek forgiveness from my husband? I have 5 daughters and I keep on wondering that the baby could have been a boy that my husband has been hoping for.

Will I know whether my repentance has been accepted by Allah?

[Abdullah Hajar]

Dear beloved Shaykh, May Allah shower His Mercy upon you and increase you in good, aameen.

Many brothers misunderstand the ayah in Suratun Nisaa':34 which refers to the steps which men should employ in order to rectify marital discord. As a result, we see our sister being used as punching bags. Allahu musta'aan!!!

Question: 1

If a person has been made a witness to physical and mental abuse of a brother upon his wife and they reside in the land of Islam, what should that person due if advising him is of no avail?

Question: 2

What should the Muslims who reside in the land of the kufaar due if they are aware of physical abuse of a brother upon his wife? Is it permissable, if after trying to counsel and advise the abuser (brother) to call the authorities in that land (ie., the kufaar) to stop this abuse?

Unfortunately, this happens in Muslim countries as well as non-Muslim and many people turn a blind eye to it.

May Allah reward you, aameen.

[ummyusif30]

As-salaamu alaikum

I am in a situation where my ex-hsusband is not being an active parent. He rarely calls and lives in a different state so does not visit his son. I have over these 3 years tried to encourage him to be more active in his sons life. When I call him to give this encouragement he will call a few times and then we will not hear from him for months. My question is I want to get full custody legally from the courts, am I able to do this? or is this against the Quran and Sunnah? I want to do this because my current husband and I want to leave the country, and having full custody will make this easier.
Also I have already gotten court ordered child support, which he has not paid sense 9/2004. Is recieving this support thru the courts against Quran and Sunnah?
Insha Allah please answer as soon as possible. May Allah reward you and grant you the highest point in jennah. Ameen

[Unregistered]

A Muslim woman who's family is not Muslim, say that they do not want a relationship with her if she was to enter in a co-wife situation they would disown her. My question is by getting married in that situation would that be her fault of breaking the ties of the wound or would that be the parents fault? And could you tell me the rights of the disbleiving parents, and give some advice of how to deal with angery disbelieving parents.

[sameera1]

Assalamalaikum

I wish to seek your advise on a matter regarding the decision to marry based on a “mashwara, by an elder of a mosque.(tabligh).
I have recently embraced Islam even though I am from a Muslim family. My upbringing was more geared towards a western way of life rather than on Islamic traditions. However through self-analysis and guidance from a Muslim brother I wish to devote my life in the path of Allah s.w.t, implementing Islamic teachings into my every life. My whole life has effectively transformed from a western woman to a muslimah through studying the religion and understanding the basic concepts of Islam and the thought processes that bring one closer to Allah swt.
I am in employment at the moment with a view to resigning as I feel I cannot practice Islam the way I wish to.

The muslim brother that re introduced me to deen wished to marry me but with the opinion from an elderly muslim person at his mosque as he felt that an elderly practising muslim who devotes his time to his deen could give him an honest opinion of whether this marriage would work. I felt that I would be able to live with this muslim brother because of his interest to follow an Islamic way of life and we could grow together in terms of knowledge and in our deen.

To cut a long story short , the elder was approached on the topic of marriage and only asked the one question which was “does this girl read all her salahs at work?” to which the answer was from the muslim brother, “no” , but she reads qaza at home. From this answer the elder has expressed his opinion that I would not be ideal as a wife as the muslim brother needs a wife who is strong in her deen.
I do not understand how a person who did not ask further and delve into my nature, character, background and fervour for deen can make such a decsion, how would he know what is in my heart.Because of his opinion this marriage is no longer going ahead

Istikhara had been done prior to approaching the elder but nothing was seen or felt by both of us. Would this then be taken as a negative?Do your amaals have to be 100% for an answer to be felt, as im told by the muslim brother?
Because of the elders decision this marriage is no longer taking place eventhough i have met the muslim brothers mother and she approves.
I feel this decision to be unfair and unjust and seek your advise in terms of
clarifying to me what a mashwara is, what it actually means to seek councel and whether this is the correct method, to accept a decision from a person that we both hardly know and if this situation could be salvaged somehow.
The muslim brother is of the opinion that whatever decision the elder gave is ultimately from allah swt, as had it been written allah swt could have quite easily put words to that effect in the elders mouth. Should i accept this decision or challenge it?

Jazzakallah

Sameera

[Unregistered]

assalam alaikum,

apparently im muslim, and im pretty committed to islam, and i believe its a true, right religion. just one thing, im a big victim of music, i play the bass guitar and got some what talented in it, and i also listen to a lot of music. i even used to get intoxicated, which inshaallah god well forgive me for, as i asked forgiveness alot from allah (swt), and i made a promise to myself ill never go back doing it ever again. im an artistic type person, so music is basically what im good at (creating/making), but islam is more important to me and i want to be alot more committed to it, inshaallah. what can i do? thank you and allah bless you with His mercy and forgiveness, inshaallah.

[Unregistered]

Assalaam Alykum!!!

My question is for Shaikh Al-'Allamah Abdul-Muhsin Ibn Hamd Al-'Abbad( May Allah preserve you )

What is the ruling on women who organize conferences to educate other sisters about Islaam? The sisters who held theses conferences are from a group and they work hard to pull this conference togeather . In this conference sisters from this group speak one by one about different subjects (like inportance of
salah ,Quraan etc) and also call other sisters to join their group. this conference is for 2 days and some women stay there overnight to join them again. Theses sisters say that they are working this hard to gain good deeds and say this ayat "Let there arise among you a group of people , inviting all to that which is good , enjoining what is right and forbidding what is wrong" (Quran 3;104). These group also conduct small halaqa in their neighbouhood and say that making dhikr in jamah is more rewarding then doing dhikr alone.

My questions are: Is it obligatory on women to give dawa ?
Do women have to work this hard to give dawa?
Should other women go to such conferences?
Is it important for women to be with Jamah and do
Dhikr(like reading Quraan ) togeather to gain more
reward?
Waiting for my answers!!!


Jazakallahu Khairan!

[Umm_Zaynab]

Asalaamu alaikum wa rahmatuallah:
I am a divorced muslimah that wants to travel to another state to be closer to salafi muslims inshallah but my male family members arent muslim and they arent willing to travel 1,000 miles to come to me so they can take me to another state and i was wondering if it was permissible for me to travel by plane to another state by myself?
Jazakallah Khair
Umm zaynab

[hafsah]

Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu

dear shaykh, may Allah be pleased with you and preserve you- ameen, i am writing concering my 3 year old son who has from a very young age had a love of Islam and especially the Qur'an masha Allah tabarak Allah. he is 3 and able to recite from surah Tin to surah Naas from memory, also surah Fatiha and Ayatul Kursi masha Allah. i have read in the biographies of the salaf that some had memorized Quran by 12 years old, my wish is insha Allah for him to become a hafiz of the Qur'an. his dream is to be an imaam in Medinah tun Nabi insha Allah. i am worried that he will not be cultivated in the correct way to maintain his love of Quran. if we were able i would love to have him tutored by a an imaam or aalim from medina or mecca to guide him along the way of Allah. the only options i know of in UK for teaching the memorizing of Quran are tablighi/ sufi daralooms where the child must stay- i am afraid of this as it may have adverse effects on his and our aqeedah. i have enquired about the medina university but am not sure if they take children so young. Ya Shaykh i ask u for some naseehah on how to help my son to stay firm upon this path which Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has made his heart incline towards JazakAllahu khair wassalaam alaikum wa rahmatullahi wabarakatuhu.

[UmmAishahDaawood]

Bismillah!
As salamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh!

With all this news on removing the feeding tube by the woman in Florida. I have a question about this.

Is it permissible to keep someone alive with a feeding tube?

I have been wondering about this and didn't know where else to turn. So ma'shaAllah for this wonderful forum. I hope that my question will be answered.

Wa alaikum salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.
Umm A'ishah
New Jersey

[Unregistered]

as salaam alaikum warahmutullaah...

My question is,
In a case where the woman remarried, and gave her children to their father who in return said she could keep a few of the kids. Does her new husband have the right to take this right from her? Can he refuse to allow her to bring any of the children that the ex husband, the childrens father said she could take?

[Unregistered]

is it permissable for a women t braid yarn into the hair.teh kindm of yarn that is used for knitting

[Unregistered]

As salaamu alaykum wr wb
when a man divorces a woman is it allowed for the woman to have custody of the children if the children are young, 3 years and 5? ....If they have a contract that was signed in front of a sheikh that says the children are to return to the father at the time the youngest turns 7--but only if this is what they(the children) wish, and if not they stay with the mother, is it then lawful for the father to take them away from the mother and the children cry to come home to the mother??
Jazakallahukhier

[Unregistered]

As salaamu aliakum

Should the brain dead Muslim remain on life support?

[Unregistered]

Is it permissible to braid yarn into your hair? Is it permissible to give a give to someone you purposed to?

[Unregistered]

My husband moved my co-wife into a new house with 3 bedrooms and they have 3 small babies all under six. I have 2 children above 10 a boy and a girl, and he refuses to move me in to another place, and i only have a two bedroom.

What is the ruling on how a husband should take care of the living status of the wives in a polygamous situation?

[Unregistered]

My daughter was married and now she is divorce, she is 16. She cannot get her own place, my children's father is not muslim, I truly feel she is my responsibility, as well as my son, i could't see me putting my daughter on the streets because she is divorce.

My husband states that she is not my responsibility, is this true?

[ummyusif30]

As-salaamu alaikum

I am in a situation where my ex-hsusband is not being an active parent. He rarely calls and lives in a different state so does not visit his son. I have over these 3 years tried to encourage him to be more active in his sons life. When I call him to give this encouragement he will call a few times and then we will not hear from him for months. My question is I want to get full custody legally from the courts, am I able to do this? or is this against the Quran and Sunnah? I want to do this because my current husband and I want to leave the country, and having full custody will make this easier.
Also I have already gotten court ordered child support, which he has not paid sense 9/2004. Is recieving this support thru the courts against Quran and Sunnah?
Insha Allah please answer as soon as possible. May Allah reward you and grant you the highest point in jennah. Ameen

[adam sumaalee]

asalaamu alaykum may allah reward you with the best yaa shaikh.
Buying and selling stocks to make profit. It is when for example when you buy stocks from a company, if that company makes money then you gain profit and if the company' stock goes down then you lose money.

In the case of the mutual fund you pay a small amount of money to a company and you gain a small amount of profit?

My question: Is getting involved in these types of buisness permissible and if so what is wrong with it
baaraka laahu fiikum

[Abuilyas]

1)My parents send me money via bank transfer nearly month for the education of me and my brother. Is zakat due on this?
2) If it is how do I make up for zakat for the previous year?
3) If the amount of the money in my account falls below the nisaab for a certain month, then do I have to wait for it to be above the nisaab for the zakatable year to start?

[abu ayanna]

As SalaamU Alaikum,

Is it permissible for a single muslimah with children to join the army for additional income? Knowing she will have to "uncover in front of men" by wearing their uniform which consist of pants, shirt (tucked in showing her arawah) and a hat. And in boot camp wear a "BATHING SUIT" in front of men while training for water survival. All this for some extra money.....and her ex-husband still supports her and the children and encourages her to finish her college degree instead and go teach at the muslim school in her area to establish her additional income. Please respond, As SalaamU Alaikum

[Firdows]

As-Salaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh,
Oh! Noble Shaykh I've been apart of my community for about four years Elm is at a all time low and learing the Qur'an is like trying to live in Medina. The Iman Alhamdulillah is striving according to the Qur'an and Sunnah, however he has only been Muslim for about ten years and is lacking in Elm, as we all are, and don't know how to read the Qur'an in Arabic, but do find a way to get the community the proper Elm by way of (tapes/and Diee's in the west) Alhamdulillah! Due to his lack of Arabic Language he cannot contack the Scholars himself so this is what he have to rely on at this time, should the people in the community incourage him to go study to bring back Elm or be patient? The people want Elm but is discourage due to a lack of Elm and Classes. Much of the Community have a zeal to learn and for Arabic however, the Imam insist that there are thing that is important before learning to read Qur'an such as Aqeedah ect., but the people still want to learn how to read Qur'an and understand the Qur'an but the Imam don't have this same zeal at this time for learing to read and understand Qur'an at this time. We haven't went through the whole book the Three Fundamentals, however we did some studing from the book in which we have to start all over again due to as the Imam is teaching he is learning. What should the people in the Community do? Oh! Noble Shaykh Make Du'aa for us all.

[Unregistered]

Assalamu'alaikum

My question is: Do I have to pay zakat on the money that my father has given me to take care of the education of me and my brother?

[Unregistered]

the head of the catholic curch died, he is no doubt form the heads of kuffur, but we have seen muslim officals from various differnt countries go to the funeral, many of them were even talked about in a negitive manner here in the western media to increase in our humilation. what is the ruling of Allah concerning following the kafirs funeral and our position concerning this mans (pope) the death in specific? jazakum allah kayer wa barak feekum

[umm_khadidja]

BismiLah, wa HamduliLah wa salatu wa slam ala Nibiyina
As Salamu alaykum wa rahmatu Lahi wa barakatuhu
Dear Shaykh
I am an European Muslima who by the Mercy of Allah has emigrated to Algeria with my husband and my child 1 1/2 years ago.
Now, my father told me to come for a short time to my hometown in Germany to do some Administration work.
The State wants to put a big impose on his house, that he will have to pay monthly and further they will put an impose on the inheritance, thus, when he dies, my sisters and me will inherit but just a little and the Government will take a big amount.
However, If I go to Germany, and register there, and say that it is also my house, and my sister do also like this, they cannot put this impose on the house and things will stay as they are!
Is it allowed to travel for this reason?
I will be accompanied by my husband who wants to do some business at the time!
I will not stay longer than maximum 3 weeks, inschaAllah!

BarakaLahu fikum
Can this Answer ne transcripted in arabic in send to me? BarakalAhu fikum!
Umm Khadidja

[Taahirah]

Asalamu Alaikum,

A Sister was asking me about the ruling on dihikr beads and television.

I understand that dhikr beads is a bidah. But she would like for me to send her the proof regarding them but I can't seem to find any fatwa on them.

I also know that television is haram. But I can't seem to find any fatwa on it as well.

Could you direct me to finding the proofs on these two issues.

[Malik]

There is differences of opinion with TV. But in any way the shows you watch can be haram. For example the immoral behavior swearing kissing sex ect are all haram. It is agreed upon by almost all scholors that TV has little benefit and can have much harm. It is best to take that which benefits you and leave that which can cause you harm. It is said TV can have bad inluences on your culture by watching shows that have unislamic culture violence and stealing.

Alot of it is undesirable the ruling is different depending on what scholar you get a ruling from. Some say it is inviting evil and shaiton into our homes. The news and things like that can have benifit or shows where you learn knowledge. It is definetely haram to waste all your time watching TV and neglecting your children and taking away from tiume with your family, prayer , and learning or studying Quran and sunnah. There is not much benefit from the common practice.

[abuzubair]

Bismillah ir Rahman ir Rahim

All praise is for Allah, Lord of all creation. And may the salaat and salaam be upon Allah's Messenger, his family, companions, and true followers until The Last Day. To:proceed...
As salaamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh

Me and my family live in low income housing (Masha Allah).
My wife and her children lived there before we married and shes labeled as the head of household.
I'm not suppose to live here without being on the lease.
they inspect the place to check these kind of things once or twice a year. We find it to be oppresive. My wife asked if i could be added to the lease and the manager said , it will be hard to get on the lease if your just boyfriend/girlfriend and thats the way we are reconized in this kufr country.

My question is: Can we get a marrige license from this country
to be reconized as being married so that I can
be added on the lease?

[QaisIbnNajibullah]

Bismillah......

Assaalam Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Baraktuh ya sheikh. Recently there has been differences amongst the muslims in the masjid that I offer salat'ul Juma'ah in and other fardh salaat that Allah aza wa jal allows me to make as I live far from it. Alhamdulillah there are a couple salafis and a some who's aqeedah who is not clear to me and the rest are sincere Yeminis. The difference we are experiencing is due who will be the amir or mudir. Inshallah to determine who will be the the amir that has knowledge of the qur'an and sunnah I have mentioned that they are to draw lots. I had read some hadeeths that our Rasool(saws) encouraged the drawing of lots but my understanding of the hadeeth may not me relevant to our situation and I seek the forgiveness of Allah for it. For the sake of Allah aza wa jal alone ya sheikh can you give naseehah on this matter? Jazak Allah Khairun wa Barak Allah Feekum wa Assaalam Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Baraktuh.

[Unregistered]

As salaamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh

I have recently married with the intention of saving my deen and chastity. I have now come to the understanding that this marriage may do more harm than good. I have intentions on asking for a khula and wanted to know if I was to find out that I was pregnant could I have an abortion. I am under the impression that I can as long as it is before 4 months. Insha Allah if someone could answer as soon as possible I really need to get out of this situation with no strings attached. Jazakallah

[abuzubair]

as-salamu-alaykum warahmantullah wabarakatuh
bismilah wa salatu was salam alaa rasulillah

ya shaykh may allah (jalla wa alaa) send his ni'mah upon you and your family

when a baby sneezes do we say (al-hamdulillah) or do we say (yarhamukallah) or do not say eventhing

[ironfeet]

Assalaum alaikum,

I have feard and know a person whose father is evil. Evil in the sense that he has inclinations towards bi sexuality.This person was shocked to catch his father staring at him lustily on night and ,despite warnings ,other nights. This father also has the habit of stealing. For years this person pretended not to notice when his father stole his money. But now at the age of 32 (his father is 57) he has lost patience espcially after the lust incident. He finally started to harrass his father fighting with him whereas before that he was a obedient son who dared not even say a word against him...such his father thought he was even scared of him. He talked with him but it did not work. It grew to fights. Often he would catch his father hiding behind the kitchen staring at his buttocks and so on in the reflection. Days ago i was told that he warned his father after harrasinh him for months...."if you do not stop i will break your phone (because his father loves materialistic things) and if u still do not i will break your head! no matter what u WILL give up your lust of men befor eu die"

He made dua to Allah to punish his father but nothing happened. He is worried that he will be punished for treating his father like this but he also says he cannot give up and let his father have what he wants because he was created a man and not a girl (and therefore naturally he would hate to go against his fitrah or be forced against it).

Worse is this person also caught his brother masturbating at the end of his bed looking at him. This made him deeply suspicious that this is a hereditary disease.

This person,He is by no means a effiminate or womanly looking man and he even has a beard! When he confronted his brother, his brother swore by Allah he did not do it yet on many occassions this person had caught his brother red handed..masturbating looking at him in the middle of the night! (He even claims he caught him lifting his blamket to look inside)

When he left the room to sleep outside his father started doing this.

Nothing has happened to his brother or his father (a 57 year old man who steals and has man-lust at this age) despite duas.

Will Allah punish him for making dua against his father or brother. Will Allah not answer his dua becuase he has an grudge against his evil brother?

Will allah still punish him for fighting his father due to his hatred of his father's disgusting man-lust?

I find his situation pitiful because on the on hand if he is nice to them his father will increase his evil hopes as well as his brother. On the other hand if he fights them like he does..by harrasing them whenever they show signs of it Allah might hate him for being rude to his father and disallow him duas coz he has a grudge against his brother..and if he stops fighting its worse coz Allah has not answered his duas to give them a punishment and a taste of thier own medicine so they will stop doing this.

[abuzubair]

Bismillah ir Rahman ir Rahim

All praise is for Allah, Lord of all creation. And may the salaat and salaam be upon Allah's Messenger, his family, companions, and true followers until The Last Day. Toroceed...
As salaamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh

Me and my family live in low income housing (Masha Allah).
My wife and her children lived there before we married and shes labeled as the head of household.
I'm not suppose to live here without being on the lease.
they inspect the place to check these kind of things once or twice a year. We find it to be oppresive. My wife asked if i could be added to the lease and the manager said , it will be hard to get on the lease if your just boyfriend/girlfriend and thats the way we are reconized in this country.

My question is: Can we get a marrige license from this country
to be reconized as being married so that I can
be added on the lease?

[gaisansari@hotmail.com]

Bismillah Asalatu Asalaamu ala Rasualala
As Salaam Alaikum wa Rahmantula wa Barakatu'
my husband has a son before he was guided to al islam
[1] what r his rights upon me?
[2] what r my rights upon him in regards to this matter, becasue he wants to make major decisions with out consulting me. Is that right islamically?
i am sincerely seeking some islamicall guidelines as this issue casues major disagreements in our marriage before, and bi ithenilah, i am trying to get advise so, InshaAllah, we have set guidelines to follow InshaAllah, this is a sensitive issue especially for me since i ahve no kids of my own as yet, the child's mother is from akhlul Kitab, and the child has some issues where in he needs help, soInshaAllah i need some naseeyah, as to how to deal with this issue InshaAllah
Barak Allahu fee Kum

[Taahirah]

Asalamu Alaikum,

I would like to know the daleel for the use of dhikr beads. I know that they are a bidah and are not from the sunnah. But someone was asking me about them and wanted me to show them proof that they are haram.

BarakAllahuFeek

[Taahirah]

Asalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatulahi Wa Barakatuh,

I have children that were born through fornication before Islam. I understand all the Fatwas that I have read about the father of these children having no rights over them and likewise the children over the father and that they can not inherit from each other.

But I am unclear as to how do I deal with a situation of child support trying to go after the non- muslim father because I am getting assistance from welfare where I live. I think I understand that I can't accept money from him because my daughter has no rights over him. But am I held accountable for child support going after him even though they have been going after him since before I was Muslim and now they still are since I have become muslim? Do I stop getting welfare because of it?

Also how do I handle this situation because it bothers my daughter that I will not allow her to visit with him because he has no rights over her and he is non muslim? I tried to explain it to her as best as I could according to the Sunnah.

BarakAllahuFeek

[Taahirah]

Asalamu Alaikum,

What is the ruling regarding using personal products which contain alcohol in the ingredients? I understand that it is haram to consume alcohol but does that apply to products which you use on your skin and hair?

[Taahirah]

Asalamu Alaikum,

What is the ruling regarding watching Television?

[abdarrahman]

Assalamu aleikum

I have a question, to kibar-al ulama. I'm living in Sweden, and I'm planning to study in university here in Sweden. My family are going to move to another country so I'm going to be living alone here. You get approcimately 260 dollars a month from the government if you are studying in Sweden. These money are free. These money won't be enough because I need a place to live and it costs very much here in Sweden. Money for the books and food. Just the books costs very much. So I can't study if my family moves so the only solution for me then is to take loan from the goverment. As you maybe know the loan is with riba (interest). They are offering me the loan, I haven't gone their myself, and this loan is from the government, and I intend to pay back, just the amount of the loan, not the ribaa, whatever it may lead into. This with the knowledge that there is no compulsion to pay back the loan if I die. If I die they'll the loan will be over. And most of the people die before they pay back the loan because the amount of the loan is big, and if you die you don't need to pay back.

So my question is:
Can I take the loan under these circumstances ?

assalamu aleikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh

[khwaja1956]

I am sending you a question which is of strategic importance for the whole of Umma. While framing the question to seek Fatwa to the best of my knowledge and ability I have detailed out every possible information and dimension that can be relevant to understand my intention and spirit behind this effort. Allah is the best custodian of our intentions and wills. We all are accountable to Him.
An early response will be highly appreciated.

[JaveedAhmedM]

The All India Muslim Personal Law Board (AIMPLB) on Friday said it would be voluntary for Muslims to follow the model 'nikahnama' which incorporates extensive rights to women and is set to be cleared during the two-day general council meeting of the Board beginning on Saturday.

The Board's working committee has cleared the draft of model `nikahnama' and a final clearance would be given during the general convention.

The Board stated that the need for model 'nikahnama' was felt due to different systems being followed across India, they said, "no one would be forced to follow it. It would be voluntary". Then what is the Use if its Voluntary. I think its just a Eye Wash or pull wool over our eyes.

Apart from defining different aspects of marriage, it should suggest guidelines for the couple to lead life and settle disputes, if any, under the 'shariyat' (divine law) only.

Women are given extensive rights under the model `nikahnama', which would solve several of their problems. What is those extensive right which were not there before if `shariyat' is being followed, unless there is "lack of awareness of `shariyat' leads to internal disputes and wrong presentation of Islam."

Does the claim that the board which "represents Muslims in India," stood unified, when some sub-groups have already formed their different Boards.

This comes as an indication from the most important organisation representing Sunni Muslims in the country, that it disfavours judicial interference in the community's civil matters from the courts of the land.

In the court of law giving a valid reason for divorce is imperative. But it's not important according to the Shariat. This is a very pro-women provision

Accordingly the nikahnama is going to include a clause that will allow two arbitrators, or vakeels, who would help settle marital disputes.

This has been to ensure that the couple will no longer have to go to a civil court, and the divorce is not done unilaterally.

In the case of a divorce, the arbitrators will also ensure the payment of maintenance to the woman.

The All India Muslim Personal Law Board is very clear in its stand, that the Shariat is supreme, and is likely to bring in a model nikahnama to minimize the interference of the judiciary in Muslim personal laws and insisted that all disputes should be settled according to the Shariat.

[Unregistered]

Is it possible to see Allah in a dream as some people claim one can?

[Unregistered]

This question is for the 'Ulemaa: What is the approximate age of the heavens and the earth according to the authentic texts? (and is this information directly mentioned or extrapolated by the scholars). Is it in the millions of years or thousands? And as for creaures such as dinosaurs etc, did they exist during the time of Adam (alaihi salaam) or before, and if so was it in the thousands of years or millions or other than that? Jazakallah khair wa barakallahu fikum.

[Shadeed ibn Holmes]

Assalaamu alaikum wa barakallho feekum,

I would like the following questions to be asked to Shaykh Wasi-Ullaah Muhammed 'Abbas on July 2, 2005:

Question 1:When the Ulema issue fataawa,and they differ in their opinions, how do we determine which fatawa to apply? Do we take the majority of the same opinion and leave the minority?
Could you please explain this in detail barakallho feeka.

Question 2:When a man divorces his wife or she dies can he marry his her (the ex- or deceased wife) daughter who did not live in his home?

Question 3:When reciting the Quran in salaat is it permissible for the imaam to recite part of an ayat or does he has to recite from the beginning of an ayat to its end?

Question 4 (a question from children):When a dog licks your hands or another part of the body must we perform wudu?

Question 5:Sometimes in the U.S. the muslims allow their families to view or play with fireworks. The fireworks were first used with the belief that it chased away what the kuffar called evil spirits. Is it permissible to use or view them without this intention?

Question 6:There are some sisters who are not married and need to get to the store for food or take their children to the doctor. When they use the bus they sometimes have to sit near strange men and them walk to their destination. In these cases, is it permissible for the woman to drive a car?

Question 7:Is it permissible to sell purses and other items that are a replica of the original item if the people know they aren’t the real ones? ( i.e. Selling replica Gucci purses )

Question 8:Is it permissible to have a second wife live in the same home as the first wife if the first wife gives permission for her to do so ?

Jazallaho khair ya ikwaa.

Assalaamu alaikum

[Unregistered]

My husband moved my co-wife into a new house with 3 bedrooms and they have 3 small babies all under six. I have 2 children above 10 a boy and a girl, and he refuses to move me in to another place, and i only have a two bedroom.

What is the ruling on how a husband should take care of the living status of the wives in a polygamous situation?

as salamu alikum is he the father of your children. Your question is not detailed. You wrote (I have two children, not we have two children)

[Umm Aa'ishah]

Bismillah,

O Noble Shaykh May Allaah Azzal Wal Jalla Reward You With Khayr Please Advise this situation.

A sister ask that I post this question on her behalf.... The Question is: her husband parents conceived and gave birth to him out of wedlock, they have been together long prior to his birth and after his birth his parents married and had other children together too, his father acknowledges that is his son and he was raised as such.
The sister has been married to to the brother for 5 years and they have 2 daughters the shaytan had made them forget that them forget that her husband was born out of wedlock until recently.

The question is O Noble Shaykh what are they suppose to do now is it permissible for the sister and the 2 granddaughters to uncover in front of him as they have been doing previously. Please advise them as to what the strongest opinion is on this particular situation.
Barakallahu Fik Wa Jazakum Allaahu khayr
Forward Message

[Unregistered]

Assalaamu’alaykum wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuh

Dear brothers, I am in a situation about which I would like to seek the advice of the ulamaa. Jazakumullaahukhayr for your efforts and concern.

My situation is as follows:

I am a young man seeking marriage, and I have been told that there was a young sister available. This sister is a new muslim therefore as you know, she does not have a mahram I can use as an intermediate between me and her. I have been given her e-mail address, and since am in contact wit her through the internet. I also want to mention that the sister lives in a town far away from me.

1- What is the shar’ee ruling on a man contacting a woman through e-mail/chatting in this situation asking her in marriage/asking about her condition(her practice of islam and other marriage related information)?

2- What is the shar’ee ruling on that same man sending her beneficial knowledge through e-mail remembering that she is a new muslim and bearing in mind that she does not have around her salafis who can teach her(for example: the sisters around her and their mothers do not wear the hijaab regularly, which gave the revert sister a wrong idea on the matter)?

[nisshoami]

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