Family, Children & Child Custody

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Family, Children & Child Custody



Family Issues

Unemployed Husband Depending on Wife to Provide for His Children (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=14006&postcount=8) - Shaykh Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan
Parent's Relationship With Sinful Adult Daughter (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=13970&postcount=5) - Shaykh Abdullaah Abdur-Rahmaan Al-Ghudayyaan
A 46 Year Old Sister Kicked Out of Her Home by Mother (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=14096&postcount=10) - Shaykh Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan
A Sister Leaves School to Avoid Free Mixing and Parents Are Unhappy (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=14234&postcount=14) - Shaykh 'Abdur-Rahmaan Al-'Ajlaan
Trials of a Mother because Children's Father Keeps Them in Another Country (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=14618&postcount=22) - Shaykh Abdur-Razzaq bin Abdul-Muhsin Al-Abbaad
Proper Hijaab With Non-Mahram Relatives (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=18893&postcount=32) - Shaykh Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan



Children

The `Awrah of the Children (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=13946&postcount=4) - Shaykh Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan
Children Watching Educational Cartoons (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=14150&postcount=11) - Shaykh Wasiullaah 'Abbaas
Young Girls Playing With Dolls (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=14152&postcount=12) - Shaykh Wasiullaah 'Abbaas
Young Children Committing Major Sins (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=14186&postcount=13) - Shaykh 'Abdur-Rahmaan Al-Ajlaan
Young Children Learning About Islaam Through Nasheeds, Videos and Cartoons (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=14395&postcount=15) - Shaykh Muhammad al-Maliki
Potty Training Young Children (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=14396&postcount=16) - Shaykh Muhammad al-Maliki
Gifts for Children on the `Eed (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=14398&postcount=17) - Shaykh Muhammad al-Maliki
A Sister Who Drives Her Muslim Neighbor's Child to a Non-Muslim School (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=14536&postcount=18) - Shaykh Abdullaah Abdur-Rahmaan Al-Ghudayyaan
Teachers Abusing Young Children at Islaamic School (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=14544&postcount=19) - Shaykh Abdullaah Abdur-Rahmaan Al-Ghudayyaan
A Father Bringing His Young Children to the Masjid (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=15099&postcount=25) - Shaykh Wasiullaah al-Abbas
Hadeeth About Bringing Children Indoors as Darkness Falls (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=15519&postcount=26) - Shaykh 'Abdul-Maalik Ramadaani al-Jazaairi
Regarding Female Teachers for Young Boys (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=13973&postcount=6) - Shaykh Abdullaah Abdur-Rahmaan Al-Ghudayyaan



Child Custody & Raising Step-Children

Seeking Child Custody Through a Kaafir Court System (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=13943&postcount=3) - Shaykh Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan
Regarding Obligations To Step-Children (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=14005&postcount=7) - Shaykh Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan
Who is Responsible for Child's Travel Expenses When Father Lives Far Away (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=13944&postcount=3) - Shaykh Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan
Children Calling Their Stepfather "Daddy" (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=14058&postcount=9) - Shaykh Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan
Rights and Duties Between Step-Parents and Step-Children (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=15041&postcount=23) - Shaykh Salaah Muhammad Aal - Shaykh
Co-Wife's Children Calling Her Their Second Mother or Stepmother (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=18780&postcount=30) - Shaykh Wasi-Ullaah Abbas
A Woman Obtains Custody of the Child Through the Kaafir Court System After Re-marrying (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=18786&postcount=31) - Shaykh Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan
A Father Allows the Children to Watch DVD's and Raises Them in an Un-Islamic Manner (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=14547&postcount=21) - Shaykh Abdullaah Abdur-Rahmaan Al-Ghudayyaan
A Woman Who Denies Her Children's Father to Visit/Speak With Them (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=15521&postcount=27) - Shaykh 'Abdul-Maalik Ramadaani al-Jazaairi



Pregnancy & Conception

Breastfeeding a Child While Pregnant (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=15739&postcount=28) - Shaykh Fahad Al Fuhayd
Du'aa for a Couple Trying to Conceive (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=18737&postcount=29) - Shaykh Muhammad al-Maliki
Ruling on Artificial Insemination (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=13878&postcount=2) - Shaykh Saalih as-Suhaymee
Child Conceived Out of Wedlock (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=14545&postcount=20) - Shaykh Abdullaah Abdur-Rahmaan Al-Ghudayyaan
Her Child Has Autism and Husband Suffers Mental Disorder, Can She Use Contraception? (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showpost.php?p=15078&postcount=24) - Shaykh Salaah Muhammad Aal - Shaykh

[Al 3ilmu noor]

Question: I am a sister that is not able to conceive unless by artificial insemination i.e. by taking my egg and my husband's sperm and fertilizing it outside my womb and then placing it in my womb. What is the correct ruling on this ? Baarak Allaahu feekum.

Answer: This is what is called artificial insemination. There is some slight differing amongst the scholars but, the fiqh councils say that it is permissible with the condition that it is absolutely certain that the semen that will be mixed with the egg of the woman is the semen of the husband, and that there is no mix-up. So, if there is safety from any mix-up occurring then yes, it is permissible. There should be in this situation a doctor who is completely trustworthy and reliable and another doctor who should supervise that doctor, and it is preferable that the supervising doctor or both doctors be Muslims. However, if the doctor is known for his truthfulness, trustworthiness and reliability then it is not a condition that he is a Muslim, even though that would be better. To summarize, if the situation is safe from there being a mix-up then it is permissible as most of the scholars have said that it is permissible although there is some slight differing on the matter.


Answered by: Shaykh Saalih as-Suhaymee حفظه الله

Title of Lecture: General Questions & Answer Session

Date of the Lecture: March 11th, 2006

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[UmmOmar]

Question: The Shaykh hafidhahullaah was asked, if the child wanted to go and see his father or the father wanted the child to come and see him and this amount is around USD 600, who has to pay for this?

Answer: The Shaykh hafidhahullaah said the usl i.e. the way it normally should be, is that the father takes care of the child and pays for him. But in this situation, it's on the mother. She spends on him while he is in iqaamah i.e. while he's with her in the place that she's at. But if the other parent wants him to come to where he is, then that parent is the one that pays. So it would be the father in this case.


Answered by: Shaykh Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan

Title of Lecture: Explanation of the hadeeth "Ad-Deen An-Nasihah"

Date of the Lecture: June 4, 2005

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[UmmOmar]

Question:At what age is a father allowed to see the 'awrah of his daughter and the mother of her son?

Answer: The Shaykh hafidhullaah went on to say that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa alaa alihi wasalaam said: "order your children to pray at seven and hit them at ten". [1] And as for the women (the translator mentioned that he was not sure if this is a hadeeth or not) in the sharh (legislation), the girl is considered a woman after nine so looking at the private parts of the children after seven is not permissible for the man to look at his daughter or for the mother to look at her son.


Answered by: Shaykh Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan

Title of Lecture: Explanation of the hadeeth "Ad-Deen An-Nasihah"

Date of the Lecture: June 4, 2005

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[1] Reported by Abû Daawud in Kitaab as-Salaat (#495) authenticated by Shaykh Al-Albaanee rahimahullaah in Irwaa-ul-Ghaleel (#298)

[UmmOmar]

Question: If a couple have a daughter who is openly committing sin and has had unlawful children from this behavior and she is still behaving in this manner what stance should they take with her - should they continue their support or should they boycott her?

Answer: In respect to these illegitimate children that result from adultery or fornication are attributed to their mother i.e. they follow their mother in terms of their lineage and there is no relation to the fornicator. Based on this the children have no sin and there is no prohibition of spending money on them; for instance, the money for their clothing etc.

As for the relation with their daughter they should do their best to give her da'wah and call her to desist from this matter (her behavior) because it is a grave matter. It is obligatory upon them to give her naseehah (advice). As for the issue of her acceptance or rejection of the advice then that returns to Allaah سبحانه و تعالى. The slave is commanded to give da'wah as needed, but the guidance and acceptance is from Allaah سبحانه و تعالى. Indeed Allaah is able to guide and with Him is the tawfeeq.


Answered by: Shaykh Abdullaah Abdur-Rahmaan Al-Ghudayyaan

Title of Lecture: The Four Principles by Muhammed Ibn Abdul-Wahhaab explained by Shaykh al-Ghudayyaan (class #1)

Date of the Lecture: February 4, 2006

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[UmmOmar]

Question: Is it permissible for the female teachers to teach the older boys in Islaamic schools as the school administration cannot afford teachers and separate buildings for boys and girls?

Answer: The principle is that the males teach the males and the female teach the female. It is probably possible to change the time where the females teach the females and the males teach the males by changing the time even though it is extended.

Answered by: Shaykh Abdullaah Abdur-Rahmaan Al-Ghudayyaan

Title of Lecture: The Four Principles by Muhammed Ibn Abdul-Wahhaab explained by Shaykh al-Ghudayyaan (class #1)

Date of the Lecture: February 4, 2006

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This Question is also listed under FIQH

[ummkulthoom]

Question: What is the level of obligation in the Deen that a step-parent has to his/her stepchild? Is the stepmother obligated to teach the children the Deen and take care of them in other ways to the best of her abilities as their mother would?

Answer: If a man has a wife and she gives birth to his children and then she passes away or he divorces her and then he marries another, the relationship between the children and the new wife is that they are like 'those that are raised in the house' (line cut off)....... The boys will become muharram for the her and if she nurses them, in addition to being muharram they become children that are of fosterage because of nursing. If they have not yet attained the age of discretion - which is seven - they are with their mother. Once they reach this age of discretion, then it is taken to the court to decide who the child is going to be with - this is in respect to them being of the same Deen. If the religion is different, the child goes with the one whose religion is best or most sound.


Answered by: Shaykh Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan

Title of Lecture: Explanation of the aayah "...and be dutiful and kind towards the parents"

Date of the Lecture: Saturday, July 16th, 2005

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[ummkulthoom]

Question: What is the ruling on the husband who does not work and depends on the wife to buy things for the children?

Answer: The principle here is that providing financially for the wife and for the children is upon the father. However, if the lady offers to give something to him, whether it's concerning providing financial aid or clothing, this is something that she is doing out of the goodness of herself - and this is if the husband is able to do so and she still does this. However, if he is unable and she has the means then it is compulsory on her to spend on her children and to provide for them - clothing, shelter, drink if she is able to do so and this is looking at the state of the father and if he is unable to do so. If he is able, then it is lawful for her under the circumstance to give if she can do so and if he is unable, then it is compulsory on her to provide under the circumstances according to her ability. As for him, his relatives are the ones who are responsible for providing for him under these circumstances.


Answered by: Shaykh Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan

Title of Lecture: Explanation of the aayah "...and be dutiful and kind towards the parents"

Date of the Lecture: Saturday, July 16th, 2005

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[Om-AbdulRahman2]

Question: Is it allowed for the children to call their mother’s husbands as ‘daddy’ and in reality he is not his father?

Answer:The Shaykh said: “If he does this and his intent is that this person is his father, this is not lawful – because it is not lawful for someone to attribute himself to someone other than his real father. If it is something which is done simply out of affection, this is something that is lawful. So what is intended is they should look at the person’s intention – if he intends that this is his real father, it is not lawful. If it is just something, maybe out of affection, then it may be done.�

Answered by: Shaykh Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan

Title of Lecture: Question and Answer Session

Date of the Lecture: Saturday, April 2nd, 2005

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[Om-AbdulRahman2]

Question: I am a single 46 years old sister, I have been taking care of my family for about 30 years and now my family is settled and are happy, except myself. I live with my mother and she has a temper problem, she kicked me out of home and refused to take me back. So what is your advice? BarakaAllaahu feekum, could you please advise.

Answer: The Shaykh said: “She is rewarded for the kindness that she has shown to her family – whether this kindness is in the form of money or some other bodily benefits, for example, serving them.

In respect to her mother, it is not lawful for the mother to send her daughter out of the home. If she does this, she is sinning. If the daughter has a share in the property, because of it being the wealth of her father, and she as a result has a right in it, she has a right to request herself remaining in the home, because of this right she shares in the property.�

Answered by: Shaykh Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan

Title of Lecture: Question and Answer Session

Date of the Lecture: Saturday, April 2nd, 2005

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[ummkulthoom]

Question: Is it permissible to let children watch Arabic cartoons for teaching purpose?

Answer: Regarding the children watching cartoons for teaching purposes as mentioned in the question i.e. as a form of educating the children, then Inshaa'Allaah there is nothing wrong with this. Perhaps allowing the children to watch cartoons for educational purposes may be a breath of fresh air for the children and also a breath of fresh air for the parent. It may give them some time to enjoy themselves and time to play apart from the normal ways of teaching. This is if it was as mentioned in the question i.e. if it is used for educational purpose.

However, you find that there are certain cartoons which teach children how to steal and how to kill and there are cartoons which have no benefit in them; these types are those which the parent should keep their children away from as this is nurturing which is not beneficial. Rather, it will corrupt the children, and it is incumbent upon the parent to keep their children away from these types of cartoons. As for the cartoons that the children can benefit from as a form of teaching and educational tool then Inshaa'Allaah there is nothing wrong with this.


Answered by: Shaykh Wasiullaah 'Abbaas

Title of Lecture: As-Seerah an-Nabawiyyah

Date of the Lecture: January 30th, 2007

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[ummkulthoom]

Question: Is it permissible for little girls to play with baby dolls? Some parents say that these are images or could be used as idols. This is what is commonly mentioned in America in relation to these types of toys such as the Barbie dolls, and here in Saudi Arabia they have what is called the Fula dolls which could probably be better because she is a Muslim, she has a khimaar, a jilbaab and everything else. However, the point is that some parents remove the head from the doll and then give it to the child, making it undesirable for the child to play with as the child doesn't want to play with a doll without a head. Is this type of doll to be looked at as an idol or an image or something that is impermissible for the children to play with?

Answer: If this toy or doll is the type of doll which is magnified or glorified like 'China dolls' or dolls which the child is not allowed to touch - perhaps it is made from wood or glass or it is placed in a particular box or something like that, then this is something that is prohibited. This is what is prohibited.

As for the baby doll that is in the form of a girl or a boy or like this, and it is something that the child plays with and which the child throws around; something that you may find lying on the ground and the child picks it up and plays with it; then there is nothing wrong with this. `A'ishah رضي الله عنها had a toy horse with two wings which she used to play with; the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم acknowledged this and he never stopped her from playing with it. This is not the type of image/form which is prohibited in Islaam. The image/form that is prohibited is the one that is magnified or glorified and the one that no one should touch or play with. It may be in the form of a man or woman or like this. As for the toy that the child plays with, there is nothing wrong with it; it is not haraam because it is for children.

The Shaykh حفظه الله added to this, that the legislation of Islaam has prohibited taking dogs as pets and has prohibited pigs from being eaten or taken as pets as it is itself something that is najis (impure). Due to this, it is not permissible to play with toys in the image/form of a pig, a dog or anything that the legislation of Islaam has prohibited. This is not appropriate. However, if it is in the form of a lion, a camel or any animal which Islaam has not prohibited then this is okay.


Answered by: Shaykh Wasiullaah 'Abbaas

Title of Lecture: As-Seerah an-Nabawiyyah

Date of the Lecture: January 30th, 2007

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[ummkulthoom]

Question: Children who have not reached the age of puberty if they commit major sins are they accountable?

Answer: The Shaykh حفظه الله responded by saying that children who did not reach the age of puberty are not held responsible or accountable for their actions or deeds. However, they are to be ordered to do the good and they are to be prohibited from practicing the evil and they are to be encouraged to practice good manners. And they are to be encouraged to obey and practice obedience to Allaah سبحانه و تعالى. This is due to the saying of the Messenger of Allaah صلى الله عليه و سلم: "Order your children to establish the prayers when they are seven and beat them for it when they reach the age of ten".[1]


Answered by: Shaykh 'Abdur-Rahmaan Al-Ajlaan

Title of Lecture: Brotherhood and Q&A Session

Date of the Lecture: February 10th 2007

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[1] Reported in Sunan Abi Daawood 1/133 (#495). Shaykh al-Albaani رحمه الله says with a Hasan-Saheeh sanad. [Also recorded by Ahmad and al-Hakim. As-Syuti has give in a notation signifying that it is authentic. Al-Albaani رحمه الله has graded it Hasan. See Saheeh al-Jaami' 2/1021 (#5868)]

[Al 3ilmu noor]

Question: A sister has recently started practicing Islaam, however she faces much trials with her family at home. She stopped her Psychology degree due to free mixing and sometimes being alone with her male tutor. It has made her parents unhappy. Is it permissible to resume her degree to please her parents? Also, how do you advise that she deals with her family?

Answer: It is upon all Muslims whether male or female, to be keen on being kind and beneficent to their parents. This is what Allaah تبارك وتعالى ordered with in surah al-'Ankaboot:

وَوَصَّيْنَا الْإِنسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ حُسْناً
{And We have enjoined on man to be good and dutiful to his parents'} [al-'Ankaboot 29:8]

And in surah Luqmaan, Allaah تعالى says:

وَوَصَّيْنَا الْإِنسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُ وَهْناً عَلَى وَهْنٍ
{And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship'} [Luqmaan 31:14]

However, if the parent orders a Muslim to disobey Allaah or with a form of disobedience to Allaah, then there is no obedience to the parent in this case due to the saying of the Messenger of Allaah صلى الله عليه وسلم: "There is no obedience to the creation in disobedience to the Creator."[1]


Answered by: Shaykh 'Abdur-Rahmaan Al-'Ajlaan حفظه الله

Title of Lecture:Questions and Answers Session

Date of the Lecture: December 14th, 2006

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[1] Reported by Ahmed in his Musnad (#1095), Shaikh Al-Albaanee says saheeh in Jaami' as-Sagheer (#7520) and in Mishkaatul-Masaabeeh (#3696).

[Om-AbdulRahman2]

Question: Could you please tell us the ruling on young children learning about Islaam and Ramadaan through nasheeds, videos, cartoons and the like?

Answer: Wallaahi this issue has spread in the Muslim world today. It started as a means of teaching but now it is a form of material enjoyment. They are not able to do without it and this is really bad as it will lead to the days of the Sufis – where they used to worship Allaah by anaasheed and they called it Islaamic songs. There are no Islaamic songs.

Yaa Ikhwan, its best to teach the children whether today or twenty thousand (20,000) years from now, in the way which fourteen (14) centuries ago, the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم used to deal with the children. For example, he صلى الله عليه وسلم told ‘Umar ibn Abi Salamah, his step child [24]:

يا غلام، سمِّ الله، وكل بيمينك، وكل مما يليك
He taught him something which was good for him. He did not make him sing nor did he صلى الله عليه وسلم sing for him. Also, the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم told ‘Abdullaah ibn ‘Abbas:

يا غلام إني أعلمك كلمات احفظ الله يحفظك احفظ الله تجده تجاهك

…until the end of the hadith.[25] This hadith today, (words unclear it sounds like: “degrees of speech are being done on it. Teach Deen.�) Notice how this hadith is given to a little boy – why? So that he would grow up with this understanding; let them (our children) grow up with Qur’aan, recitation and du’aa – teach them what will benefit them.

These things – anasheed and cartoons will make them happy because they don’t differentiate between good and bad, but they will love it and they will live with it until they die. These things will remain (in their minds). As Shaykh Muhammad Mukhtar ash-Shanqiti حفظه الله said in a lecture when he was asked about the anasheed for the students of tahfeez (memorization), he said “No, don’t make it a hobby for them because what will happen is whenever anasheed is found they will come and when anasheed is stopped they will turn away from Qur’aanâ€� – they turn away from tahfeez (memorization), they turn away from religion. That’s what we observe.

Look to the ‘Ulamaa. Do you want your child to be from amongst the ‘Ulamaa? Okay, take the biography of Shaykh Ibn Baaz and the biography of Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen and see how they grew up. I challenge anyone to show me that Shaykh Ibn Baaz, Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen, Shaykh al-Albaani, Shaykh Muqbil, Shaykh Fawzaan, Shaykh Luhaydaan grew up listening to anasheed or cartoons. No! they grew up in a serious manner. They were in the halaqah (circles, sittings) of the shuyuukh; and in the house their mother reviewed what they studied and encouraged them in increasing in memorizing the Qur’aan and studying the Sunnah. They gave them sweet etc. (as an incentive) because they wanted to encourage them, and that is why when they became adults they became more serious than others. Shaykh Ibn Baaz said that when the children used to play he always used to stay with the Qur’aan. Akhi, Subhanallaah, who are the children who were with the Shaykh? We don’t know them; he didn’t mention any of the scholars of today who were his friends in boyhood. He did not mention them and this means that all those children went only to the dunya (got caught up in worldly affairs), but by staying with the Qur’aan he رحمه الله became the noble ‘Aalim, the noble Imaam of his time. This also pertains to the other great and grand ‘Ulamaa.

You will see some old People of Knowledge today encouraging anasheed and when you go back to their childhood you find them with anasheed. They used to watch cartoons and that’s why even now with their white beards, grey hair, bent back, holding the stick and speaking very broken they are still saying anasheed. Subhanallaah! This is because they grew up with it and they lived with it; but the other scholars are always saying “Qur’aan, Qur’aan� and “hadeeth, hadeeth�. So decide what you want your child to be like when he becomes a man or a woman and then work from now to achieve this, as they say:

يشب فتى الفتيان فينا على ما كان عوده أبوه
The young will become young (grow into adolescence) as he was raised by his father (upon what his father got him accustomed to) when he was a boy. If he was left to anasheed and cartoons he will love it and grow up with it and live with it. Wallaahi, I saw brothers in the Jaami’ah (University) and some of them were in the Faculty of Hadeeth playing games on the mobile phone or on the computer. Subhanallaah, is this what they are created for, they are Taalibul ‘Ilm (Students of Knowledge). When I asked them why, I found out that from their boyhood days they lived with that.

However, notice that those people who are always involved in seeking knowledge, teaching knowledge and busy in Qur’aan recitation – you always see when they become adults – men or women, and when they become old you always see them in those fields and people will have a need for them. But people of anasheed nobody needs them. Yaa Ikhwaan we have to realize the difference between what Allaah تعالى created us for and work towards it, and what is to be found from enjoyment. Wallaahu A’lam.


Answered by: Shaykh Muhammad al-Maliki

Title of Lecture: Ramadaan 1427 = 2006

Date of the Lecture: Saturday, October 14th, 2006

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[1] “O boy! Mention the Name of Allaah and eat with your right hand, and eat of the dish what is nearer to you.�
Reported in Saheeh al-Bukhaari, Kitaab at-At’imah (#5061) and Saheeh Muslim, Kitaab al-Ashribah (#2022)

[2] “Young man, I shall teach you some words (of advice): be mindful of Allaah, and Allaah will protect you. Be mindful of Allaah and you will find Him in front of you…�
Reported as part of a longer hadith. Shaykh al-Albaani رحمه الله says Saheeh in Saheeh al-Jaami’ (#7957). Also found in an-Nawawi’s 40 Hadeeth as hadeeth #19.

[Om-AbdulRahman2]

Question: Is it okay to leave the children with diapers soiled with defecation as a lesson (as a punishment) while potty training?

Answer: Wallaahi, taking care of children is given to (the responsibility of) the parents but they must not show harshness against the children as they are a weak creation and as you know, they don’t intend to do things, they don’t mean it. The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم guided the children, for example, When he sent Anas bin Maalik for something to bring he found Anas was late, so he came out of the house and found Anas playing with the kids. He patted him on his head and he said: yaa Anas he said smiling. He was smiling yaani the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم. He said Yaa Anas did you go for what I sent you to do? Anas said no Yaa RasoolAllaah.[1] He didn’t tell him anything and that’s why Anas said that he served Rasoolullaah for ten years. He never responded to anything that he did by asking ‘why you did this or why you didn’t do this?’ Also, he صلى الله عليه وسلم used to lead the Jama’ah and [/color]while in sujood, in prostration Hasan or Hussayn came and climbed over his shoulder and he remained there until the Sahaabah would think that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم is dying due to the long prostration he made, until the boy left. And after Salaah the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم used to tell the Sahaabah: my grandson was playing over my shoulder and I didn’t want to disturb him.[2] Subhanallaah, the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم was praying and he didn’t want to disturb the child who is playing, and he صلى الله عليه وسلم was leading the Jama’ah.

But today people’s chests are very narrow – they don’t want to have mercy with the children. This is the way that the children are created – they like playing and sometimes they destroy things; you should just guide them and show them mercy, they like it. They like mercy, and if you show them some respect and you speak to them like the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم spoke to Abdullah ibn Abbas: يا غلام ‘O lad’. He said to ‘Umar ibn Abi Salamah يا غلام ‘O lad’, Subhanallaah. One day he came to Abu ‘Umayr, the boy who used to have a bird with him and one day he found him sad and crying. He صلى الله عليه وسلم asked someone what happened to Abu ‘Umayr and they said that his bird died. He صلى الله عليه وسلم went laughing to him and said:

يا أبا عمير ماذا فعل النغير؟
What happened to the bird?[3] So he’s talking to him as if he is a man. And ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab said about raising the children: From the first year that the child is born until age seven it time for him to play, don’t tell him anything, and from the eighth year until fourteen guide him regarding what he should and shouldn’t do, and from fifteen until (word unclear) you leave him – he is a man now. When he is 20 years old he is a man, you don’t beat him or curse him, just deal with him as your friend. This is how the children should be raised and treated and dealt with. Don’t show them harshness and don’t prevent them joining others in parties or in playgrounds – let them go and then talk to them, let them see this as your being merciful. Tell them “see you did this wrong, but although you did that I was very merciful with you and I was very kind because I am your father or I am you mother, I love you and I want you to be the best, so listen to my advice, that’s why I allowed you to go and play that’s why I gave you the giftâ€� – speak to them like that. They are very, very sensitive creations, so we need to deal with them the way the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم dealt with them. Wallaahu A’lam.


Answered by: Shaykh Muhammad al-Maliki

Title of Lecture: Ramadaan 1427 = 2006

Date of the Lecture: Saturday, October 14th, 2006

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[1] Reference Pending

[2] Reference Pending

[3] Reported as part of a longer hadeeth in Saheeh al-Bukhaari, Kitaab as-Adab (#5778, 5850) and in Saheeh Muslim, Kitaab as-Aadaab (#2150).

[Om-AbdulRahman2]

Question: Could you give the children any gifts for ‘Eed, or does it have to be clothes or money?

Answer: Wallaahi, anything that can bring pleasure to the children and even to the adult is good, as the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:

تهادواتحابوا<o:p></o:p>
Give gifts and you’ll love each other.[1] The hadiyyah i.e. gift, opens the heart. This is well known, even to the kuffar. It is something that Allaah تعالى put in the hearts of mankind, even the kuffar; gifts opens the heart, that is well known. So give gifts to the children, give them clothes – new clothes, give them sweets, give them money, all of this is good. Even those who are very poor and cannot give anything, their smile is a big gift. As the Prophet صلى الله عليهوسلم said:<o:p></o:p>

تبسمك في وجه أخيك صدقة<o:p></o:p>
Your smile for your brother is a sadaqah. [2]That is the best gift. Wallaahu A’lam.


Answered by: Shaykh Muhammad al-Maliki

Title of Lecture: Ramadaan 1427 = 2006

Date of the Lecture: Saturday, October 14th, 2006

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[1] Shaykh al-Albaani رحمه الله says Hasan in Saheeh al-Jaami’ (#3004).

[2] Shaykh al-Albaani رحمه الله says Saheeh in Saheeh at-Targheeb wat-Tarheeb Vol. 3. (#2685).

[ummkulthoom]

Question: I have a question regarding taking a child of one of my neighbours to a non-Muslim school. Her mother is working and not able to take her. The child goes to public school as the Muslim schools here are very expensive and the mother is unable to pay the tuition. In this non-Muslim school they teach the children haraam things. Am I in a state of sin for doing this as I drive the car and take her to and from school every day. The mother is not religious and does not teach her daughter religious matters.

Answer: The Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said:“Each of you is a shepherd over your flock. The imam is a shepherd and responsible his flock, the man is a shepherd over his family and responsible for them, the woman is a shepherd over her husband’s household and responsible for those under her care. Everyone is a shepherd and responsible for those under their care.â€�[1] This mother has a legal Islaamic responsibility to look after her children and it is not lawful for her to send her children to a school that teaches them matters that are prohibited. Rather, it is compulsory upon her to teach them what will benefit them from matters of their Deen.

Answered by: Shaykh Abdullaah Abdur-Rahmaan Al-Ghudayyaan

Title of Lecture: The Four Principles by Muhammad ibn Abdul-Wahhaab

Date of the Lecture: March 4, 2006

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[1] Shaykh al-Albaani says Saheeh isnad in Adab al-Mufrad 1/83 #212 with the wording:
كلكم راع وكلكم مسؤول عن رعيته فالأمير راع وهو مسؤول والرجل راع على أهله وهو مسؤول
والمرأة راعية على بيت زوجها وهى مسؤولة ألا وكلكم راع وكلكم مسؤول عن رعيته

[ummkulthoom]

Question: We have some teachers who beat and mistreat children mentally and physically. Our children are in trauma and so frightened to attend their lessons. The little ones being called out their names with foul languages, imitating their speech and under "disciplinary actions� their ’awrah is being exposed. They claim this is the way of the Sahaabah. What is your naseehah?

Answer: Regarding this issue, the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said “Command the children to pray at seven and reprimand them at ten.â€� [1] The teacher’s disciplining of a student varies depending on the student’s age; and many methods are available. Disciplining by breaking bones due to beating and exposing the ’awrah is not permissible. Exposing one’s ’awrah is haraam and it is not permissible for one to look at another person’s ’awrah, except between the husband and wife, but other than this it is not permissible. There is no problem in certain circumstances where there is a need e.g. if one is undergoing some sort of medical treatment. However, for the teacher to expose the student’s ’awrah and apply the punishment such that the teacher or students sees the child’s ’awrah there is no doubt that this is haraam (prohibited). To attribute this to the Companions and the Taabi’een is no doubt a lie. This teacher is being sinful by attributing this to the Companions and the Taabi’een; and also by using a type of punishment that is unlawful.


Answered by: Shaykh Abdullaah Abdur-Rahmaan Al-Ghudayyaan

Title of Lecture: The Four Principles by Muhammad ibn Abdul-Wahhaab

Date of the Lecture: April 1, 2006

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[1] Ahmad Vol2. #6756; Abu Dawuud Vol. 1, #495. Shaykh al-Albaani says Saheeh in Irwaa al-Ghaleel Vol. 2 #298 with the wording:

حديث عمرو بن شعيب عن أبيه عن جده أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال مروا أبناءكم بالصلاة وهم أبناء سبع سنين واضربوهم عليها لعشر وفرقوا بينهم في المضاجع

[ummkulthoom]

Question:My parents conceived me outside of wedlock, but got married before I was born, therefore I was born in wedlock. Both of them are non-Muslims, am I to be attributed to my father or to my mother?

Answer: If a man commits zinaa (adultery or fornication) with a woman and she becomes pregnant and he marries her whilst she is pregnant this marriage contract is not valid and the child is not attributed to the man. The Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said: “The child is to the bed and the stone is for the adultererâ€� [1] i.e. the child is attributed to the mother and her relatives – her parents, children and those outside her nuclear family. The adulterer has no relationship with the child and as mentioned before, the marriage contract is not valid.


Answered by: Shaykh Abdullaah Abdur-Rahmaan Al-Ghudayyaan

Title of Lecture: The Four Principles by Muhammad ibn Abdul-Wahhaab

Date of the Lecture: April 1, 2006

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[1] Narrated by abu Hurayrah in Saheeh al-Bukharee Vol. 4 #6432 with the wording below. Also found in Muslim, Abu Dawuud, at-Tirmidhi and others.

الولد للفراش، وللعاهر الحجر

[ummkulthoom]

Question: I need advice concerning my children. I do not permit television, movies and the like in my home, but when my ex-husband takes the children for a visit he takes them to the movie house to see the kuffaar movies, he allows them to see DVD movies in his home, I tell my daughters who are in puberty to cover their faces and he tells them they do not have to. Now the children hate my home, because they long for the home of their father. What is your advice?

Answer: The Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said “Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock, the man is a shepherd in his house and responsible for his household, the woman is a shepherd over her husband’s house and has a responsibility for those under her care.â€�[1] According to this, the mother has a responsibility and likewise, the father has a responsibility. Both of them have the responsibility of bringing up children in an Islaamic manner. It is not lawful to bring them up such that they become accustomed to haraam things from drink, food, clothing, or things that they are allowed to hear or see. If they (the parents) incite them towards these things then they have betrayed their Trust. Allaah سبحانه و تعالى says:

إِنَّ اللّهَ يَأْمُرُكُمْ أَن تُؤدُّواْ الأَمَانَاتِ إِلَى أَهْلِهَا
{Verily, Allâh commands that you should render back the trusts to those, to whom they are due…} [an-Nisaa 4:58]

So, you excel in training your children regarding what is between you and Allaah (your trust) and ask Allaah جل و علا to divert their father from this bad type of upbringing to righteous upbringing (of the children). What the father does of bad training is a sin upon him, and the sin is not upon you as Allaah جل و علا says:

لاَ يُكَلِّفُ اللّهُ نَفْساً إِلاَّ وُسْعَهَا
{Allâh burdens not a person beyond his scope…} [al-Baqarah 2:286]

And Allaah جل و علا says:

مَا يُرِيدُ اللّهُ لِيَجْعَلَ عَلَيْكُم مِّنْ حَرَجٍ
{…Allâh does not want to place you in difficulty…} [Al-Maaidah 5:6]


Answered by: Shaykh Abdullaah Abdur-Rahmaan Al-Ghudayyaan

Title of Lecture: The Four Principles by Muhammad ibn Abdul-Wahhaab

Date of the Lecture: April 1, 2006

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[1] Shaykh al-Albaani says Saheeh isnad in Adab al-Mufrad 1/83 #212 with the wording:

كلكم راع وكلكم مسؤول عن رعيته فالأمير راع وهو مسؤول والرجل راع على أهله وهو مسؤول والمرأة راعية على بيت زوجها وهى مسؤولة ألا وكلكم راع وكلكم مسؤول عن رعيته

[Abuabdillahndao]

Question: I have two daughters who are currently living in Egypt with their father. He does not allow me to speak with them unless he is able to be there with them. He spends most of his time here in America while they are there with his wife. I would like my children back here with me or if that is not possible I want some kind of relationship with them. I have not spoken to my children for three (3) years, and have not seen them for four (4) years. What is your advice to me and to him?

Answer: The first thing is to advise the woman with patience and to seek her reward from Allaah سبحانه و تعالى as this is indeed a great calamity that has befallen her regarding her children. We ask Allaah سبحانه و تعالى to make her affair easy and we advise her to make du’aa to Allaah سبحانه و تعالى to make her affair easy and to correct the affair and to correct this issue that has been the cause of her not talking to or seeing her children for that length of time.

As it relates to the daughters, they are acquiring sin by not contacting their mother. This type of contact and relationship with their mother is obligatory upon them. For them to continue in this type of cutting off of ties – this type of boycott/abandonment is not permissible no matter what reason they give. The mother has a great status in Islaam and a great status as it regards her children. Allaah سبحانه و تعالى will ask those daughters on the Day of Judgement about this mother and their relationship with their mother.

As it relates to her not having any contact with her daughters for three years – this is from despicable character, on the part of the one who has caused this disconnection between the two. We advise her to try to treat situation in best way possible even if she has to call her former husband and remind him to fear Allaah سبحانه و تعالى in a way that is better, even if she has to write to him reminding him about the duty a daughter has for their mother and the relationship that a mother and chid should be able to have.

Likewise, her speech with the daughters should be that which is lenient, gentle and not harsh. Maybe it was something that she said to the daughters about the (former) husband that caused him to take such a hard stance and cut-off the relationship between the daughters and the mother – maybe it is something he heard from her, or maybe not. If this was the reason then she should leave that off and she should make the relationship between her and her daughters be one of goodness and reminding one another to be obedient to Allaah سبحانه و تعالى and it should be a relationship based on helping them in obedience to Allaah عز و جل.


Answered by: Shaykh Abdur-Razzaq bin Abdul-Muhsin Al-Abbaad

Title of Lecture: Hadith of the Guarantee

Date of the Lecture: Saturday, April 8th, 2006

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[UmmQasim]

Question: Abu Hind from Virginia says: I would like to ask if you can explain the rights of the step-parent over the children in his home as well as the rights that the step-children have over the step-parent (clothing, food etc.) also, is it permissible for the stepchild to call the stepfather ‘Abi’ if the child is not attributed to the biological father (zinaa)?

Answer: By Allaah, as I understand this question, if the stepparent has stepchildren living with him in his house with their mother, they have no rights in Islaam on him. He doesn’t have to give them food or clothes or shelter. They have no rights upon him to provide this for them. But in Islaam it is encouraged to do good deeds for the yateem (يتيم) i.e. the one who has lost his father, or lost his mother, or the poor, or the small. The Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said “The one who takes care of an orphan and I are like this in paradise," and he joined his index finger and middle finger together.[1] So it is a good deed to do this – to give them a home, and give them food etc. and to treat them well, and raise them well, and let them learn; but it is not obligatory to have them in your house. It is not obligated upon you to spend on those children.

Also, those children have to be thankful and really obey their (step) father as they obey their original (biological) father. They must also listen to him as long as he doesn’t asks them to do something that is wrong or something that is against Islaam or bad manners etc. They should obey him and treat him like a father. I think that saying to him (calling him) ‘father’, ‘Abi’ or ‘Baba’ there is no problem in it inshaa’ Allaah. But he should not officially make him his son i.e. he doesn’t officially say “this stepchild is my son� or when he introduces him to others he says “this is fulan bin fulan, this is my son.� No, but if in the house he is called ‘Baba’ it is okay, like you would respect your ‘Aalim and says ‘Waalid’ (father), and like some servants say ‘Baba’, then I think Inshaa’ Allaah there is nothing wrong with it. Wallaahu A’lam.


Answered by: Shaykh Salaah Muhammad Aal Shaykh

Title of lecture: Question and answer session

Date of lecture: 20 January 2007

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[1] Reported in Saheeh al-Bukhaaree, Kitaab at-Talaaq (#4998); Kitaab al-Adab (#5659).

[UmmQasim]

Question: This question is from Birmingham, England. The sister asks: I have 3 children the eldest is 11 years and he has a mental disorder called autism, and I have two other girls ages 7 years and 2 years. My husband also suffers from a mental disorder which causes him high levels of anxiety and stress, my question is, is it permissible for me to continue taking contraception as my family is highly demanding and it would cause me immense hardship if I were to get pregnant for another child? Please advise me.

Answer: Alhamdulillaah, if the sister said that she has difficulty with the father and one of the sons as they are sick, then Inshaa’ Allaah there is no ba’s (بأس – harm) if she takes those contraception pills, but her husband he has to accept this and permit her to do so; although what is best for her is to have more children because the Messenger صلى الله عليه و سلم said “Marry the loving and fertile, for I will compete with the other Prophets with the number of my followers.â€�[1] We have to have faith in God that He will give us healthy children and they will help us in our lives and they will make du’aa after we die. She has only two girls and having more children will be more fulfilling in her life and in doing the mubah (مباح – permissible act) if she can, and having more (children) its much better. Wallaahu A’lam.

Answered by: Shaykh Salaah Muhammed Aal Shaykh

Title of lecture: Question and answer session

Date of lecture: 20 January 2007

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[12] Reported in Sunan Abi Daawuud as part of a longer hadeeth, Kitaab an-Nikaah (#2050). Shaykh al-Albaanee رحمه الله says Saheeh in Saheeh al-Jaami’ (#2940).

[UmmJihad1593]

Question: Is it permissible for man to bring children to masjid whether they are loud or quiet.

Answer: Firstly, if the children’s mother wants to come to the masjid and there is no babysitter etc. and they could not leave them in the house alone as they fear for them, and they have no other way but to bring them with them, then it is permissible even if they scream, cry etc. The women at time of the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم[/color] [/color]used to bring their children and he صلى الله عليه و سلم used to hear the babies crying and he صلى الله عليه و سلم would make the salaah light so the mother would not worry about her child. [1]This is from the mercy of the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم.

So it is okay for the young children who have manners and know the manners of the masjid to be brought to the masjid. Even though some of the People of Knowledge dislike the fact that the young children should come to the Masjid and be amongst the rows and ranks of those praying unless they be above the age of 7, what is correct is that even if they are below the age of 7 and they are well-behaved then it is okay for them to be in the ranks of the musalleen even if they are in the 1st row inshaa Allaah. If they are badly behaved and run and scream and they disturb the people then this is not permissible to bring them to the Masjid because in this case they disturb the Muslims, and the people who bring children that do this will be sinning in doing this.

Answered by: Shaykh Wasiullaah al-Abbas حفظه الله

Title of Lecture: Explanation of Ad-Durrar Al-Bahiyyah of Imaam Shawkaani - The Book of Purification

Date of the Lecture: CLASS #2 - Delivered on February 18th, 2006

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[1] Reference pending

[ummkulthoom]

Question: The question regarding a Hadith concerning our children to call them in when Maghrib comes in and Shaytaan spreads, we shall lock our doors and calm our children down, and after a period of time we shall let them loose again .... How do we understand this hadith?

Answer: The answer concerning the hadith of the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم at the time of Maghrib: "When nightfalls, then keep your children close to you, for the devil spreads out then. An hour later you can let them free;[1]

The meaning of the hadith, as the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said, the Shayateen, at this time, spread out, they come out. So the child should not be left to go out at this time by himself. If he goes out with his Walee (his guardian) then there is no problem, Inshaa’Allaah with this but he should not be left to go out on his own because the Shayateen may abduct him or they may harm him. At this time nonetheless, the Shayateen are out and they are in large quantity and they might do types of harm. This is why we are ordered to bring the children in, calm them down or not let them out alone. As for closing the door, then the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم, he ordered that you close your doors and you say the name of Allaah سبحانه و تعالى upon it because as in a hadith, the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said: “shut the doors making mention of Allaah's Name, for the Satan does not open a closed doorâ€�[2]


Answered by: Shaykh 'Abdul-Maalik Ramadaani al-Jazaairi

Title of Lecture: Verily, Man was Created Very Impatient

Date of the Lecture: July 22nd , 2006

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[1] Reported by Muslim in Kitaab al-Ashribah Vol. 3(#2012)

[2] Reported by Muslim in Kitaab al-Ashribah Vol 3. (#2012)

[ummkulthoom]

Question: What is the ruling on the woman who marries and divorces and marries again and will not allow the children to live with their father and will not allow regular visitation, even by phone?

Answer: This is the kinship that is not permissible to break; she can go ahead and let him see his children. And what is known is that children go to the mother when the separation happens unless she becomes married. So they are for her to keep as long as they are young, under the age of tameez (distinguishing) i.e. when they start to distinguish between men and women. When they are young, they go to the woman – this is known – but it is not for her to cut them off from their father unless there is an Islaamic reason in which there is something haraam going on when this happened but otherwise, she can't cut them off. It is not permissible for them to be cut (the ties of this kinship).


Answered by: Shaykh 'Abdul-Maalik Ramadaani al-Jazaairi

Title of Lecture: Verily, Man was Created Very Impatient

Date of the Lecture: July 22nd , 2006

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[UmmJihad1593]

Question: I have a 14 month old child who is still breastfed and I am also 3 months pregnant. Some sisters keep telling me that I should stop doing this as they have read in the Qur'aan that it is harmful to my baby. What is your opinion?

Answer: As for the woman while she is pregnant, there is no harm upon her if she wants to breastfeed the other baby. As for the woman who told her that it is not permissible for her to do so, then she should be asked to speak with knowledge, to speak while she has knowledge of what she says, and to present the evidences. To speak without knowledge and without giving evidences is a mistake and it is wrong. There is nothing wrong with this woman breastfeeding her 14 month old baby while she is pregnant. There is nothing against her, and Allaah knows best.


Answered by: Shaykh Fahad Al Fuhayd حفظه الله

Title of Lecture: Golden Naseehah to the Seekers of Knowledge

Date of the Lecture: November 19th, 2005

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[ummkulthoom]

Question: And this is the last question for today, Inshaa Allaah. A Sister from Massachusetts says: “My husband and I have been married for some time now and we are trying to get pregnant. Are there any du’aas that you recommend to aid us in this task, Inshaa Allaah?�

Answer: Yes there is a du’aa that Allaah سبحانه و تعالى taught us in Suratul Furqan. Allaah سبحانه و تعالى told us that the believers always say:

رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَاماً
{…"Our Lord! Bestow on us from our wives and our offspring the comfort of our eyes, and make us leaders of the Muttaqûn.} [al-Furqaan 25:74]

So I advise you, sisters and brothers, all sisters and brothers to repeat this du’aa as much as you can, it is found in Suratul Furqaan and Inshaa Allaah تعالى it would be a great du’aa. Wallahu a’alam.


Answered by: Shaykh Muhammad al-Maliki

Title of lecture: Question & Answer Session

Date answered: November 25th, 2006

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[ummkulthoom]

Question: My husband has five children with my co-wife Mashaa Allaah. I have three children that are from a previous marriage. Sometimes her younger one calls me his second or stepmother. Is this term incorrect and is it allowed for my children to call my husband ‘stepfather’ as well?

Answer: In this case there is a woman who has married a man and she has children from a previous marriage is it permissible for her children to call their stepfather أبي (Abi) “my fatherâ€� and is it permissible for his children to call their stepmother أمي (Ummi) “my motherâ€�? The Shaykh حفطه الله said it is permissible from the perspective of showing respect, i.e. the children of the woman showing respect to the husband and his children showing respect to her. However, remember that when the child has to be called he must be called by the name of the real father.


Answered by: Shaykh Wasi-Ullaah Abbas

Title of Lecture: Fiqh Course FQ110 (Class #5)

Date answered: June 17th, 2006

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[UmmOmar]

Question: A wife and husband divorced and the ex-wife after remarrying went to the kaafir court, petitioning and receiving custody of the young child, male, against the wishes of the father. The father is granted by this kaafir court visitation for three weekends a month and one month in the summer while the child is out of school. Is it permissible now for the child’s mother and her new husband to move far away almost 2500 miles and thus eliminate the possibility of continued visitation? The travel to the proposed destination is 6 hours by air each way and the cost could exceed about USD600. Upon whom is the obligation of the cost of visitation if relocating the son is permissible?

Answer: The Shaykh hafidhahullaah went on to say concerning the woman that wants to take the child and leave, he said first of all, the guardianship of the child should be with the mother until the age of 7. After the age of 7 the child is able to pick between one of the two parents if they are both upon the same level of being able to take care of him. In the event that one of them is less able, for instance, if the mother has certain traits or deficiencies that would lead to the child’s upbringing being corrupt. As well as the father, these traits might be in the father as well. And these are one of the things that may take away from them being equal in raising the child. And if they are equal in this then it is what is best for the child. So whatever is best for him, whether with the father or the mother, then he is put into that situation whether with the father or the mother and this is the ruling ash-Sharh (the legal ruling) in Islaam.

As for the specific question you asked about in this situation, then the courts have given the mother the custody, so it is upon her that she takes care of the child in all of the affairs that he needs to be taken care of; that is that she spends on him. And this is because she has literally taken away the use of the father. There is no use for him. So it is upon her that she takes upon herself all of the spending upon this child. And the Shaykh said something about taking them farther but I wasn’t able to make out exactly what the Shaykh hafidhahullaah said but it’s something about going farther in the court system, maybe to the point that the father doesn’t have any rights seeing the child.


Answered by: Shaykh Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan

Title of Lecture: Explanation of the hadeeth "Ad-Deen An-Nasihah"

Date of the Lecture: June 4, 2005

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[UmmOmar]

Question: A questioner asks: My female cousin was raised by my mother and father even though my cousin’s mother lives in the same country. However, my mother never breastfed my cousin. Is it an obligation upon my cousin to cover in front of me?

Answer: The Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم said: “A man does not seclude himself with a woman except that Shaytaan is the third amongst them.â€�[1] A man said: “O Messenger of Allaah what about the hamoo? He صلى الله عليه وسلم said: “The hamoo is (like) death itself.â€�[2] The hamoo is the husband’s brother (i.e. brother-in-law), likewise from this perspective, the son of the paternal uncle and the son of the maternal uncle (i.e. her male cousins). They are not allowed to see her uncovered to begin with, and it is obligatory upon her to wear hijaab in the presence of all strange (non-mahram) men and he is from amongst them.


Answered by: Shaykh Abdullah Al Ghuydaan

Title of lecture: Question and asnwer session

Date of lecture: 17th November 2007

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[1] Reference pending for the hadeeth mentioned by the Shaykh حفظه الله:

ما خلا رجل بامرأة إلا كان الشيطان ثالثهما
With the following wording it is reported by at-Tirmidhee (#1171, #2165) and Shaykh al-Albaanee رحمه الله says Saheeh in Saheeh al-Jaami’ (#2546).

لا يخلون رجل بامرأة إلا كان ثالثهما الشيطان

[2] Reported in Saheeh al-Bukhaaree, The Book of Marriage (كتاب النكاح), Hadeeth (#4934) and in Saheeh Muslim, The Book of Salutations/Greetings (كتاب السلام), Hadeeth (#2172).

"إياكم والدخول على النساء." فقال رجل من الأنصار: يا رسول الله، أفرأيت الحمو؟ قال: "الحمو الموت