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November 25th, 2005, 07:56
Question and Answer Session
by Shaykh Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan,
on Saturday, April 2nd, 2005
Brothers and sisters in Islaam, we welcome you once again to our lectures with the scholars and it pleases us to have with us today, one of our noble scholars – al-Allaamah al-Faqeeh Shaykh Abdullah ibnu Abdur Rahmaan al-Ghudyaan (hafidhahullah) and you all know him very well for he has done many lectures with us before – wa lillaahil-hamd. And we remind you all that all of our previous lectures are available on-line at www.albaseerah.org. And now, without any further delay, we ask our Shaykh to proceed:
Assalaamu alaikum wa rahmatallaahi wa barakatahu. ( The Shaykh speaks in Arabic for a short period and then the brother asks the first question).
1. Question: Is it permissible to just mention the du’aa of Salaat ul-Istikhaarah without making two rakaat?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “The established Sunnah from the Messenger of Allaah (sallallaahu ‘alaihi wassallam) is that a person should first perform two rakaat and after doing so, he should give the salaams, raise his hands in supplication – and supplicate. It is better for this to be done in the middle of the night.
Also this is concerning an affair that he is doubtful about, certain things, the end of the affair, or how it ends or eventuates may be good or it may be bad.
If a person is doubtful about the result, he does this and after giving salaam, he supplicates and whatever is more certain to his heart he does. Otherwise he leaves it alone. Supplication should be done three times.”
2. Question: What is the ruling for the person who came late for the Salaat ul-Jumu’ah (Friday prayer) or he leaves it off?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “It is not lawful for a person to be late for the Jumu’ah, if he is able to perform it. If he is unable to do so because of something that prevents him, or he is unable, then he prays Dhuhr – but it has to be done after the time of Dhuhr enters. If he is able to do so – he should. Because the Prophet (sallallaahu alaihi wassallam) taught us that: ‘ Whoever gives up three consecutive Jumu’ahs, out of negligence, he shall have a seal placed on his heart.’[1]”
3. Question: Regarding the Muslim supplicating in Salaat, if he is in sujood (prostration), can he say Aameen?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “The Messenger of Allaah (sallallaahu alaihi wassallam) said: ‘As for rukoo’ (bowing position), you should magnify your Lord. As for sujood you should supplicate abundantly/exert yourself in supplication – because you’re likely to receive a response.’ [2]
So if an individual says ‘Aameen’ – he is in fact saying ‘O Allaah answer my supplication’. So as for him saying this in sujood, I don’t see anything wrong with this.”
4. Question: A sister committed zina (adultery) and had a baby as a result and she took the man to court for child support. The woman feels that the man who is a kaafir is the legal father of the child – is it right for her to receive the money from the man for the child’s maintenance and is the man the child’s father?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “From the principles and the maxims of the Shari’ah is that Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aalaa) legislated causes (asbaab) and He commanded us to work according to those things that He has legislated for our benefit – like the Salaat, Siyaam (fasting), the Zakaat and other things. These affairs, they have consequences that are beneficial for us and for this reason they have been legislated. They have benefits in this world and in the life to come concerning our Deen.
However Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aalaa) forbade adultery and fornication. The same way He forbade consuming alcohol and usurping the wealth of others and their other belongings. These things are corrupt. They are mufaasid – they have no benefit in them or very little.
For this reason there is nothing legal that comes out of them that is positive (Shar’an) – in the benefits of the creation. So if zina (adultery) has been forbidden, then it is not lawful, and from the Mercy of Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aalaa) is that He has attributed the child to the mother and He has not attributed it to the father.
Based upon the principle that is found in the hadeeth, the child is to be attributed to the legal wedding or act that takes place. As for the one who commits adultery/fornication, they have nothing but to be stoned. So this child follows the mother, takes on the mother’s name – and she is considered a mahram for him and him for her – and for the females, like the grandmother and all of those on her side, it is allowed for him to look at her without being fully attired Islaamically and so on. However there is no penalty in this case for that lady, because of the time that it took place. And Allaah knows best.”
5. Question: Is it allowed for a man to see a ghayr mahram (non-mahram) woman’s face after she is dead?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “This is not lawful – it is not lawful for him to look at her face while she is alive or after her death – because the sanctity/sacredness of the dead person is similar to the sanctity that they have whilst they are alive. The Prophet (sallallaahu alaihi wassallam) mentioned in a hadeeth: ‘Breaking the bone of the dead is like breaking it whilst they are alive.’[3]”
6. Question: My sister who is a non-Muslim has asked me to lend her some money to be used as a deposit to buy a property, she will be paying the rest of the money on mortgage – under these circumstances am I allowed to give her the money?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “Lending this money without there being any of this stipulation is lawful. However, if there is a stipulation, from the sister, that on repaying this loan you have to give me an addition, this is not permissible. If the sister who receives this loan repays this money and out of the goodness of her heart, she gives an addition, then this is lawful. The Prophet (sallallaahu alaihi wassallam), he once borrowed a camel, a young one and he returned an older one, which was of more value. However this should not be a condition during the time of the contract.
As for seeking a loan from the bank, where a person has to pay ribaa (interest/usury), every loan which produces some additional benefit for the person who has given the money, it is considered ribaa.
(There is an interruption in the phone line and the last thing being mentioned was): Whoever left something for Allaah’s sake; Allaah shall repay him/give him better than what he left off.”
7. Question: I want to get married inshaa Allaah, but I live in America and she lives in Dubai – so is it permissible to request a photo picture from her?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “As for the brother who is proposing, it is lawful for him to see the girl or the sister that he is proposing to. As for the picture, it is not lawful. Looking at the individual, the Prophet (sallallaahu alaihi wassallam) said to one of the companions: ’Look at her, because it is more likely to continue the affection between you.’[4] So it is lawful for him to look at her directly, as for a picture – no.”
8. Question: What advice do you give to a husband who is trying to make Hijrah to the land of Muslims and his wife is in opposition. Is it permissible for him to leave and continue to be married to her or should he divorce her before he leaves her?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “If he is able to perform Hijrah to the abode of Islaam, it is an Islamic legal compulsory duty on him to do so. As for his wife, it is not lawful for her to be a source of prevention for him from completing this compulsory act. If she refuses, he should go on, perform the Hijrah and leave her alone or divorce her. The Prophet (sallallaahu alaihi wassallam) said: ‘Whoever leaves off something for Allaah’s sake, Allaah shall give him better than what he left off.’[5]
In this case he only left her off for Allaah’s sake, that is to perform Hijrah and Allaah mentions in the Qur’aan:
وَإِن يَتَفَرَّقَا يُغْنِ اللّهُ كُلاًّ مِّن سَعَتِهِ وَكَانَ اللّهُ وَاسِعاً حَكِيماً
{And if they separate, Allaah shall give each out of His Bounty...} [An-Nisaa’ 4:130]”
9. Question: Can I wear a ring a silver with a stone attached to that?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “I don’t know what is intended here, whether it is for the wedding band or whether it is to protect a person from some harm. If it is a wedding band then this is an imitation of the kuffar so we should not be doing it. If it is the second reason, the person is wearing it to avert some harm then this is Shirk. This is associating something with Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aalaa). And if he is just simply wearing it, then there is nothing wrong with that.”
10. Question: How does a woman ask/take a khula’ from her husband and what is permissible for her during the Iddah?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “If there is some difficulty in the family relations and if the reason is from the side of the husband, he is the one who is the cause, it is not lawful for him to take anything of the dowry that he gave her. Whether this takes place before consummating the marriage or after it. If he was the reason, then this is the case.
If the lady, she is the reason, then she gives the mahr (dowry) that she received, to get a release – and she goes into a waiting period. If she is pregnant, her waiting period ends when she delivers. If she does not have a menstrual cycle, then she waits for three months. If she does have a menstrual cycle, she waits until three monthly cycles pass. It is not on her to wait the duration of the lady whose husband has passed away.”
11. Question: Is it allowed to read the Qur’aan for somebody who is dead, with the intention that the ajar (reward) is going to that person?
Answer: The Shaykh said that according to him: “Recitation of the Qur’aan and after doing so asking that the thawaab (blessings) for this be given on to one’s parents or anyone like this – this is something that benefits them with Allaah’s permission.”
12. Question: Is it allowed for the children to call their mother’s husbands as ‘daddy’ and in reality he is not his father?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “If he does this and his intent is that this person is his father, this is not lawful – because it is not lawful for someone to attribute himself to someone other than his real father. If it is something which is done simply out of affection, this is something that is lawful. So what is intended is they should look at the person’s intention – if he intends that this is his real father, it is not lawful. If it is just something, maybe out of affection, then it may be done.”
13. Question: Is there any authentic hadeeth that one should not drink and eat at the same time?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “As for the Prophet (sallallaahu alaihi wassallam), it is established that he said concerning this that: ‘A person who eats, he should have a third of his stomach for food, a third for drinking and a third that allows him to breathe.’ [6] What is meant by this is that a person is allowed to either drink while he is eating or after completing his meal.”
14. Question: I am a Muslim sister, all praise is due to Allaah and I have young kids and I don’t have any mahram – is it permissible for me to make Hijrah without any mahram?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “We should know that the child attains puberty with one of the following signs:
Attaining 15 years of age
Having pubic hair grow around the private areas
Having some type of seminal discharge or having ikhtilaam, this may happen before the person reaches the age of 15 years - and they are still considered as mature.
Menstrual Cycle (specific to females)
So if one of the (male) children has any of the above signs, they are considered mahram for their mother. The Prophet (sallallaahu alaihi wassallam) said: ‘It is not lawful for a lady who believes in Allaah and the Last Day the journey the distance of a day and a night without a mahram.’ [7]
We also know that Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aalaa) has not made Hajj compulsory on the lady without a mahram. So if one of the children has not attained the age of puberty, it is not compulsory on her to perform the Hijrah.”
15. Question: I am a single 46 years old sister, I have been taking care of my family for about 30 years and now my family is settled and are happy, except myself. I live with my mother and she has a temper problem, she kicked me out of home and refused to take me back. So what is your advice? BarakaAllaahu feekum, could you please advise.
Answer: The Shaykh said: “She is rewarded for the kindness that she has shown to her family – whether this kindness is in the form of money or some other bodily benefits, for example, serving them.
In respect to her mother, it is not lawful for the mother to send her daughter out of the home. If she does this, she is sinning. If the daughter has a share in the property, because of it being the wealth of her father, and she as a result has a right in it, she has a right to request herself remaining in the home, because of this right she shares in the property.”
16. Question: I was wondering if it was halaal or haraam to take hair from the back of your own hair and implant it in your bald spot, so that hair will start growing there?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “If the hair is his hair, from his body, there is nothing wrong with him doing that – if it is his hair.”
17. Question: I study in college and I will go back and visit my family and my city once in two weeks – every Saturday and Sunday. Do I have to pray ‘Asr in my native place, even if I get the jamaa’ah or should I shorten the prayer and pray the prayer of the traveller?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “No, it is not lawful for him to shorten his prayer, not in the university or when he returns home. But rather he prays each prayer in its specified time, as he would normally pray.”
18. Question: I migrated from France to Mali and I met some salafi brothers over there and they are looking for a president/ameer for their da’wah activities – is it permissible for them to take one of us as an ameer/president?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “Allaah mentions in the Qur’aan:
وَالْمُؤْمِنُونَ وَالْمُؤْمِنَاتُ بَعْضُهُمْ أَوْلِيَاء بَعْضٍ يَأْمُرُونَ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَيَنْهَوْنَ عَنِ الْمُنكَرِ
{The believers male and female are helpers and friends, one to another, they command what is right and forbid what is wrong…} [at-Taubah 9:71]
If they come together and agree to make an individual from amongst them responsible for their affairs, there is nothing wrong with this.”
19. Question: Is it compulsory for a Muslim to declare himself as a follower of one of the four Imams – or should he just follow the Qur’aan and the Sunnah without following any specific Imam?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “An individual may be an ordinary person, who is not a scholar or a student of knowledge – and he is not able to deduce regulations from the Qur’aan and the Sunnah. This individual, if something is difficult for him, then he should question the most knowledgeable person that he is able to get in contact with.
As for the individual who has a high level of learning and he is able to understand the Qur’aan and the Sunnah – and this is not something that happens to everybody – because the Qur’aan and the Sunnah: it has Allaah’s rights that we must be aware of, the rights of His servants, in it we must have the knowledge of the methodologies that help us to understand the source – like Usool ul-Fiqh (the principles of Islamic Jurisprudence), understanding the language and what is necessary in terms of the grammar, learning about the science of Qur’aan, understanding the position of the companions and the taabi’een – all of these things must be found in the person who wants to take it upon himself to take directly from the Qur’aan and the Sunnah.”
20. Question: Is it permissible for a woman to marry an imprisoned man, the reason they want to marry now as opposed to waiting is to protect themselves from the sins of talking on the phone, writing letters and visiting?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “The Messenger of Allaah (sallallaahu alaihi wassallam) said: ‘A lady is married for one of four reasons; for her wealth, for her beauty, for her lineage and for her Deen. So choose the one who has Deen.’[8] The Prophet (sallallaahu alaihi wassallam) also said: ‘If there comes to you an individual whose deen and character you are pleased with, then marry them. If you don’t do this, there will be corruption and great harm in the earth.’ [9]
That which is looked at as being necessary between the man and the woman is soundness of Deen. So if this man is sound in his Deen and there is nothing that prevents him from being an acceptable candidate – for example he does not drink alcohol, if this person is not an individual who does not pray etc – if a person, his Deen is correct, then there is nothing wrong with him marrying or this sister marrying him.”
(The Shaykh is thanked by the brothers for giving this lecture).
References
[1] Reported by Abee Daawud in Kitaab as-Salaat (#1052), Ahmad (#14599), Ibn Maajah in Kitaab Iqaamatus-Salaat was-Sunnah Feehaa (#1126), An-Nasaa-ee in Kitaab al-Jumu’ah (#1369), Shaikh al-Albaanee rahimahullâh says the chain is saheeh in Jaami’ as-Sagheer (#6140 - 6143) and hasan/saheeh in Saheeh Ibn Khuzaymah (#1857)
من ترك ثلاث جمع تهاونا من غير عذر طبع الله على قلبه
[2] Reported by Muslim in Kitaab as-Salaat (#479)]
فأما الركوع فعظموا فيه الرب وأما السجود فاجتهدوا في الدعاء فقمن أن يستجاب لكم
[3] Reported by Abû Daawud 3/212 in Kitaab al-Janaaiz (#3207), Ibn Maajah 1/516 in Kitaab al-Janaaiz (#1616), Shaikh Al-Albaanee rahimahuLlâh says the chain is Saheeh in Irwaa-ul-Ghaleel (#763), Jaami’ as-Sagheer (#2143 – 4478) and Saheeh at-Targheeb wa Tarheeb (#3567)
كسر عظم الميت ككسره حيا
[4] Reported by Ibn Maajah 1/599 in Kitaab an-Nikaah (#1865), At-Tirmidhee in Kitaab an-Nikaah (#1897), An-Nasaaee in Kitaab an-Nikaah (#3235), Shaikh Al-Albaanee rahimahullâh says Saheeh in Jaami’ as-Sagheer (#859), Mishkaatul-Masaabeeh (#3107) and Silsilah as-Saheehah 1/198 (#96)
اذهب فانظر إليها فإنه أحرى أن يؤدم بينكما
[5] See Jilbab al-Ma’aa al-Muslimah page 47, Shaikh al-Albaanee (rahmahullaah) says Saheeh
من ترك شيئا لله عوضه الله خيرا منه
[6] Reported by At-Tirmidhee 4/590 in Kitaab az-Zuhd (#2380), Shaikh Al-Albaanee (rahimahullaah) says Saheeh in Jaami’ as-Sagheer (#5674), Saheeh at-Targheeb wa Tarheeb (#2135), Silsilah as-Saheehah 5/336 (#2265)
ما ملأ آدمي وعاء شرا من بطن بحسب ابن آدم أكيلات يقمن صلبه فإن كان لا محالة فثلث لطعامه وثلث لشرابه وثلث لنفسه
[7] Reported by Muslim in Kitaab al-Hajj (#1338)
لا يحل لامرأة تؤمن بالله واليوم الآخر أن تسافر مسيرة يوم وليلة إلا مع ذي محرم
[8] Reported by Al-Bukhaaree in Kitaab an-Nikaah (#4802) and Muslim in Kitaab an-Nikaah (#1466)
تنكح المرأة لأربع لمالها ولحسبها ولجمالها ولدينها فاظفر بذات الدين تربت يداك
[9] Reported by At-Tirmidhee 3/395 in Kitaab an-Nikaah (#1085), Shaikh al-Albaanee rahimahullâh says the chain is hasan in Irwaa-ul-ghaleel (#1868) and Mishkaatul-masaabeeh (#3090)
إذا جاءكم من ترضون دينه وخلقه فأنكحوه إلا تفعلوا تكن فتنة في الأرض وفساد
by Shaykh Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan,
on Saturday, April 2nd, 2005
Brothers and sisters in Islaam, we welcome you once again to our lectures with the scholars and it pleases us to have with us today, one of our noble scholars – al-Allaamah al-Faqeeh Shaykh Abdullah ibnu Abdur Rahmaan al-Ghudyaan (hafidhahullah) and you all know him very well for he has done many lectures with us before – wa lillaahil-hamd. And we remind you all that all of our previous lectures are available on-line at www.albaseerah.org. And now, without any further delay, we ask our Shaykh to proceed:
Assalaamu alaikum wa rahmatallaahi wa barakatahu. ( The Shaykh speaks in Arabic for a short period and then the brother asks the first question).
1. Question: Is it permissible to just mention the du’aa of Salaat ul-Istikhaarah without making two rakaat?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “The established Sunnah from the Messenger of Allaah (sallallaahu ‘alaihi wassallam) is that a person should first perform two rakaat and after doing so, he should give the salaams, raise his hands in supplication – and supplicate. It is better for this to be done in the middle of the night.
Also this is concerning an affair that he is doubtful about, certain things, the end of the affair, or how it ends or eventuates may be good or it may be bad.
If a person is doubtful about the result, he does this and after giving salaam, he supplicates and whatever is more certain to his heart he does. Otherwise he leaves it alone. Supplication should be done three times.”
2. Question: What is the ruling for the person who came late for the Salaat ul-Jumu’ah (Friday prayer) or he leaves it off?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “It is not lawful for a person to be late for the Jumu’ah, if he is able to perform it. If he is unable to do so because of something that prevents him, or he is unable, then he prays Dhuhr – but it has to be done after the time of Dhuhr enters. If he is able to do so – he should. Because the Prophet (sallallaahu alaihi wassallam) taught us that: ‘ Whoever gives up three consecutive Jumu’ahs, out of negligence, he shall have a seal placed on his heart.’[1]”
3. Question: Regarding the Muslim supplicating in Salaat, if he is in sujood (prostration), can he say Aameen?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “The Messenger of Allaah (sallallaahu alaihi wassallam) said: ‘As for rukoo’ (bowing position), you should magnify your Lord. As for sujood you should supplicate abundantly/exert yourself in supplication – because you’re likely to receive a response.’ [2]
So if an individual says ‘Aameen’ – he is in fact saying ‘O Allaah answer my supplication’. So as for him saying this in sujood, I don’t see anything wrong with this.”
4. Question: A sister committed zina (adultery) and had a baby as a result and she took the man to court for child support. The woman feels that the man who is a kaafir is the legal father of the child – is it right for her to receive the money from the man for the child’s maintenance and is the man the child’s father?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “From the principles and the maxims of the Shari’ah is that Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aalaa) legislated causes (asbaab) and He commanded us to work according to those things that He has legislated for our benefit – like the Salaat, Siyaam (fasting), the Zakaat and other things. These affairs, they have consequences that are beneficial for us and for this reason they have been legislated. They have benefits in this world and in the life to come concerning our Deen.
However Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aalaa) forbade adultery and fornication. The same way He forbade consuming alcohol and usurping the wealth of others and their other belongings. These things are corrupt. They are mufaasid – they have no benefit in them or very little.
For this reason there is nothing legal that comes out of them that is positive (Shar’an) – in the benefits of the creation. So if zina (adultery) has been forbidden, then it is not lawful, and from the Mercy of Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aalaa) is that He has attributed the child to the mother and He has not attributed it to the father.
Based upon the principle that is found in the hadeeth, the child is to be attributed to the legal wedding or act that takes place. As for the one who commits adultery/fornication, they have nothing but to be stoned. So this child follows the mother, takes on the mother’s name – and she is considered a mahram for him and him for her – and for the females, like the grandmother and all of those on her side, it is allowed for him to look at her without being fully attired Islaamically and so on. However there is no penalty in this case for that lady, because of the time that it took place. And Allaah knows best.”
5. Question: Is it allowed for a man to see a ghayr mahram (non-mahram) woman’s face after she is dead?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “This is not lawful – it is not lawful for him to look at her face while she is alive or after her death – because the sanctity/sacredness of the dead person is similar to the sanctity that they have whilst they are alive. The Prophet (sallallaahu alaihi wassallam) mentioned in a hadeeth: ‘Breaking the bone of the dead is like breaking it whilst they are alive.’[3]”
6. Question: My sister who is a non-Muslim has asked me to lend her some money to be used as a deposit to buy a property, she will be paying the rest of the money on mortgage – under these circumstances am I allowed to give her the money?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “Lending this money without there being any of this stipulation is lawful. However, if there is a stipulation, from the sister, that on repaying this loan you have to give me an addition, this is not permissible. If the sister who receives this loan repays this money and out of the goodness of her heart, she gives an addition, then this is lawful. The Prophet (sallallaahu alaihi wassallam), he once borrowed a camel, a young one and he returned an older one, which was of more value. However this should not be a condition during the time of the contract.
As for seeking a loan from the bank, where a person has to pay ribaa (interest/usury), every loan which produces some additional benefit for the person who has given the money, it is considered ribaa.
(There is an interruption in the phone line and the last thing being mentioned was): Whoever left something for Allaah’s sake; Allaah shall repay him/give him better than what he left off.”
7. Question: I want to get married inshaa Allaah, but I live in America and she lives in Dubai – so is it permissible to request a photo picture from her?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “As for the brother who is proposing, it is lawful for him to see the girl or the sister that he is proposing to. As for the picture, it is not lawful. Looking at the individual, the Prophet (sallallaahu alaihi wassallam) said to one of the companions: ’Look at her, because it is more likely to continue the affection between you.’[4] So it is lawful for him to look at her directly, as for a picture – no.”
8. Question: What advice do you give to a husband who is trying to make Hijrah to the land of Muslims and his wife is in opposition. Is it permissible for him to leave and continue to be married to her or should he divorce her before he leaves her?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “If he is able to perform Hijrah to the abode of Islaam, it is an Islamic legal compulsory duty on him to do so. As for his wife, it is not lawful for her to be a source of prevention for him from completing this compulsory act. If she refuses, he should go on, perform the Hijrah and leave her alone or divorce her. The Prophet (sallallaahu alaihi wassallam) said: ‘Whoever leaves off something for Allaah’s sake, Allaah shall give him better than what he left off.’[5]
In this case he only left her off for Allaah’s sake, that is to perform Hijrah and Allaah mentions in the Qur’aan:
وَإِن يَتَفَرَّقَا يُغْنِ اللّهُ كُلاًّ مِّن سَعَتِهِ وَكَانَ اللّهُ وَاسِعاً حَكِيماً
{And if they separate, Allaah shall give each out of His Bounty...} [An-Nisaa’ 4:130]”
9. Question: Can I wear a ring a silver with a stone attached to that?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “I don’t know what is intended here, whether it is for the wedding band or whether it is to protect a person from some harm. If it is a wedding band then this is an imitation of the kuffar so we should not be doing it. If it is the second reason, the person is wearing it to avert some harm then this is Shirk. This is associating something with Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aalaa). And if he is just simply wearing it, then there is nothing wrong with that.”
10. Question: How does a woman ask/take a khula’ from her husband and what is permissible for her during the Iddah?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “If there is some difficulty in the family relations and if the reason is from the side of the husband, he is the one who is the cause, it is not lawful for him to take anything of the dowry that he gave her. Whether this takes place before consummating the marriage or after it. If he was the reason, then this is the case.
If the lady, she is the reason, then she gives the mahr (dowry) that she received, to get a release – and she goes into a waiting period. If she is pregnant, her waiting period ends when she delivers. If she does not have a menstrual cycle, then she waits for three months. If she does have a menstrual cycle, she waits until three monthly cycles pass. It is not on her to wait the duration of the lady whose husband has passed away.”
11. Question: Is it allowed to read the Qur’aan for somebody who is dead, with the intention that the ajar (reward) is going to that person?
Answer: The Shaykh said that according to him: “Recitation of the Qur’aan and after doing so asking that the thawaab (blessings) for this be given on to one’s parents or anyone like this – this is something that benefits them with Allaah’s permission.”
12. Question: Is it allowed for the children to call their mother’s husbands as ‘daddy’ and in reality he is not his father?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “If he does this and his intent is that this person is his father, this is not lawful – because it is not lawful for someone to attribute himself to someone other than his real father. If it is something which is done simply out of affection, this is something that is lawful. So what is intended is they should look at the person’s intention – if he intends that this is his real father, it is not lawful. If it is just something, maybe out of affection, then it may be done.”
13. Question: Is there any authentic hadeeth that one should not drink and eat at the same time?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “As for the Prophet (sallallaahu alaihi wassallam), it is established that he said concerning this that: ‘A person who eats, he should have a third of his stomach for food, a third for drinking and a third that allows him to breathe.’ [6] What is meant by this is that a person is allowed to either drink while he is eating or after completing his meal.”
14. Question: I am a Muslim sister, all praise is due to Allaah and I have young kids and I don’t have any mahram – is it permissible for me to make Hijrah without any mahram?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “We should know that the child attains puberty with one of the following signs:
Attaining 15 years of age
Having pubic hair grow around the private areas
Having some type of seminal discharge or having ikhtilaam, this may happen before the person reaches the age of 15 years - and they are still considered as mature.
Menstrual Cycle (specific to females)
So if one of the (male) children has any of the above signs, they are considered mahram for their mother. The Prophet (sallallaahu alaihi wassallam) said: ‘It is not lawful for a lady who believes in Allaah and the Last Day the journey the distance of a day and a night without a mahram.’ [7]
We also know that Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aalaa) has not made Hajj compulsory on the lady without a mahram. So if one of the children has not attained the age of puberty, it is not compulsory on her to perform the Hijrah.”
15. Question: I am a single 46 years old sister, I have been taking care of my family for about 30 years and now my family is settled and are happy, except myself. I live with my mother and she has a temper problem, she kicked me out of home and refused to take me back. So what is your advice? BarakaAllaahu feekum, could you please advise.
Answer: The Shaykh said: “She is rewarded for the kindness that she has shown to her family – whether this kindness is in the form of money or some other bodily benefits, for example, serving them.
In respect to her mother, it is not lawful for the mother to send her daughter out of the home. If she does this, she is sinning. If the daughter has a share in the property, because of it being the wealth of her father, and she as a result has a right in it, she has a right to request herself remaining in the home, because of this right she shares in the property.”
16. Question: I was wondering if it was halaal or haraam to take hair from the back of your own hair and implant it in your bald spot, so that hair will start growing there?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “If the hair is his hair, from his body, there is nothing wrong with him doing that – if it is his hair.”
17. Question: I study in college and I will go back and visit my family and my city once in two weeks – every Saturday and Sunday. Do I have to pray ‘Asr in my native place, even if I get the jamaa’ah or should I shorten the prayer and pray the prayer of the traveller?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “No, it is not lawful for him to shorten his prayer, not in the university or when he returns home. But rather he prays each prayer in its specified time, as he would normally pray.”
18. Question: I migrated from France to Mali and I met some salafi brothers over there and they are looking for a president/ameer for their da’wah activities – is it permissible for them to take one of us as an ameer/president?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “Allaah mentions in the Qur’aan:
وَالْمُؤْمِنُونَ وَالْمُؤْمِنَاتُ بَعْضُهُمْ أَوْلِيَاء بَعْضٍ يَأْمُرُونَ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَيَنْهَوْنَ عَنِ الْمُنكَرِ
{The believers male and female are helpers and friends, one to another, they command what is right and forbid what is wrong…} [at-Taubah 9:71]
If they come together and agree to make an individual from amongst them responsible for their affairs, there is nothing wrong with this.”
19. Question: Is it compulsory for a Muslim to declare himself as a follower of one of the four Imams – or should he just follow the Qur’aan and the Sunnah without following any specific Imam?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “An individual may be an ordinary person, who is not a scholar or a student of knowledge – and he is not able to deduce regulations from the Qur’aan and the Sunnah. This individual, if something is difficult for him, then he should question the most knowledgeable person that he is able to get in contact with.
As for the individual who has a high level of learning and he is able to understand the Qur’aan and the Sunnah – and this is not something that happens to everybody – because the Qur’aan and the Sunnah: it has Allaah’s rights that we must be aware of, the rights of His servants, in it we must have the knowledge of the methodologies that help us to understand the source – like Usool ul-Fiqh (the principles of Islamic Jurisprudence), understanding the language and what is necessary in terms of the grammar, learning about the science of Qur’aan, understanding the position of the companions and the taabi’een – all of these things must be found in the person who wants to take it upon himself to take directly from the Qur’aan and the Sunnah.”
20. Question: Is it permissible for a woman to marry an imprisoned man, the reason they want to marry now as opposed to waiting is to protect themselves from the sins of talking on the phone, writing letters and visiting?
Answer: The Shaykh said: “The Messenger of Allaah (sallallaahu alaihi wassallam) said: ‘A lady is married for one of four reasons; for her wealth, for her beauty, for her lineage and for her Deen. So choose the one who has Deen.’[8] The Prophet (sallallaahu alaihi wassallam) also said: ‘If there comes to you an individual whose deen and character you are pleased with, then marry them. If you don’t do this, there will be corruption and great harm in the earth.’ [9]
That which is looked at as being necessary between the man and the woman is soundness of Deen. So if this man is sound in his Deen and there is nothing that prevents him from being an acceptable candidate – for example he does not drink alcohol, if this person is not an individual who does not pray etc – if a person, his Deen is correct, then there is nothing wrong with him marrying or this sister marrying him.”
(The Shaykh is thanked by the brothers for giving this lecture).
References
[1] Reported by Abee Daawud in Kitaab as-Salaat (#1052), Ahmad (#14599), Ibn Maajah in Kitaab Iqaamatus-Salaat was-Sunnah Feehaa (#1126), An-Nasaa-ee in Kitaab al-Jumu’ah (#1369), Shaikh al-Albaanee rahimahullâh says the chain is saheeh in Jaami’ as-Sagheer (#6140 - 6143) and hasan/saheeh in Saheeh Ibn Khuzaymah (#1857)
من ترك ثلاث جمع تهاونا من غير عذر طبع الله على قلبه
[2] Reported by Muslim in Kitaab as-Salaat (#479)]
فأما الركوع فعظموا فيه الرب وأما السجود فاجتهدوا في الدعاء فقمن أن يستجاب لكم
[3] Reported by Abû Daawud 3/212 in Kitaab al-Janaaiz (#3207), Ibn Maajah 1/516 in Kitaab al-Janaaiz (#1616), Shaikh Al-Albaanee rahimahuLlâh says the chain is Saheeh in Irwaa-ul-Ghaleel (#763), Jaami’ as-Sagheer (#2143 – 4478) and Saheeh at-Targheeb wa Tarheeb (#3567)
كسر عظم الميت ككسره حيا
[4] Reported by Ibn Maajah 1/599 in Kitaab an-Nikaah (#1865), At-Tirmidhee in Kitaab an-Nikaah (#1897), An-Nasaaee in Kitaab an-Nikaah (#3235), Shaikh Al-Albaanee rahimahullâh says Saheeh in Jaami’ as-Sagheer (#859), Mishkaatul-Masaabeeh (#3107) and Silsilah as-Saheehah 1/198 (#96)
اذهب فانظر إليها فإنه أحرى أن يؤدم بينكما
[5] See Jilbab al-Ma’aa al-Muslimah page 47, Shaikh al-Albaanee (rahmahullaah) says Saheeh
من ترك شيئا لله عوضه الله خيرا منه
[6] Reported by At-Tirmidhee 4/590 in Kitaab az-Zuhd (#2380), Shaikh Al-Albaanee (rahimahullaah) says Saheeh in Jaami’ as-Sagheer (#5674), Saheeh at-Targheeb wa Tarheeb (#2135), Silsilah as-Saheehah 5/336 (#2265)
ما ملأ آدمي وعاء شرا من بطن بحسب ابن آدم أكيلات يقمن صلبه فإن كان لا محالة فثلث لطعامه وثلث لشرابه وثلث لنفسه
[7] Reported by Muslim in Kitaab al-Hajj (#1338)
لا يحل لامرأة تؤمن بالله واليوم الآخر أن تسافر مسيرة يوم وليلة إلا مع ذي محرم
[8] Reported by Al-Bukhaaree in Kitaab an-Nikaah (#4802) and Muslim in Kitaab an-Nikaah (#1466)
تنكح المرأة لأربع لمالها ولحسبها ولجمالها ولدينها فاظفر بذات الدين تربت يداك
[9] Reported by At-Tirmidhee 3/395 in Kitaab an-Nikaah (#1085), Shaikh al-Albaanee rahimahullâh says the chain is hasan in Irwaa-ul-ghaleel (#1868) and Mishkaatul-masaabeeh (#3090)
إذا جاءكم من ترضون دينه وخلقه فأنكحوه إلا تفعلوا تكن فتنة في الأرض وفساد