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Originally posted by:
ummsuli

Assalaamu alaykum,

Alhamdulilah, I came out of an abusive marriage, physical and verbal. It has been extremely difficult, but I try to remain patient and know it's Allah's qadr. I would like to remarry, Insha'Allah. My main question evolves around who is my wali. My father is a convert, but has never prayed nor shows active interest in learning. My brother Allah Knows Best, rarely prays, doesn't attend Jumuah, and has married a Catholic woman to which they raise the kids with both Islam and Chrisitianity, gave them Chrisitian names, thus, Islam is not the sole religion in the household. Based on this, can I ask someone else to be my wali? If so, who would be most suitable? Please kindly respond at your earliest convenience.

Jazak Allahu Khayran.

Umm Sulayman

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A sister converted to Islam and so did her father and brother but what is apparent to her is that the father and brother do not pray or practice the deen. She does not want them to act as her wali. who should be the sisters Wakil?

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Umm Aaliyah Amriki [img]images/statusicon/user_offline.gif[/img] Junior Member

As salaamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

I would like clarity in regard to the following hadith in the Prohibition of giving preference to children over one another in giving gifts, etc.

An-Numan bin Bashir said: My father took me to the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) and said to him: "I have gifted one of my slaves to this son of mine." The Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) said, "Have you given such a gift to every son of yours?" He replied, "No." Thereupon he said, "Take this gift back."

Recently my husband purchased a soccer ball for one of my daughters but not the other three children. Based on the Hadith should he return the ball? Or should he make it a family ball and not particular to one child? An incident occured where the other children asked to use the ball and were told no because the child who is the owner said "this is my ball." Doesn't this cause resentment and jealousy amongst the children.

Also, at times, when the children see cookies or candy, and they ask for it, my husband may give to the child who did not ask in order to teach the child who did ask that they should not ask for everything they see. And that everything is not for them. Is this permissable in regard to gift giving

Barakallah Feeki
Umm Aaliyah Amriki

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I would like clarity in regard to the following hadith in the Prohibition of giving preference to children over one another in giving gifts, etc.

An-Numan bin Bashir said: My father took me to the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) and said to him: "I have gifted one of my slaves to this son of mine." The Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) said, "Have you given such a gift to every son of yours?" He replied, "No." Thereupon he said, "Take this gift back."

Is it allowed for a father to give a gift to one child and not the rest of the children? SHould he take the gift back from the child? Is it allowed for him to give to some of his children and withhold from others as a way of teaching them not to ask for everything they see?
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