If a wife who was a bikr when she married her husband felt that his choice in a second wife was putting her health in harms way because the sister has had many previous spouses in a very short amount of time and is genuinely worried by the careless actions of the husband to protect his first family from harm what are her rights Islamically? Could she withhold relations from her husband, without falling into sin?

If the first wife has lost trust, respect and overall love for her husband due to these issues with polygamy and his desires leading him can she seek separation from the husband so that the husband is not burdened with her concerns for safety in the future?

Also, for clarification purposes, Allah has made polgamy halal for Muslim men, but is it waajib for Muslim women to be involved in polygamous marriages if they have tried it and know that they are burdened by it?

As salaam aliekum,
I am an american and at the time of my marriage 15 years ago, my husband and i knew that i needed someone to speak on my behave, as a wali. We did not know that it must be a muslim. My father was not happy that i was marrying a muslim or someone outside of our race and was far away at the time of my marriage. The brother who married us obviously did not know also that it should have been a muslim who would be my wali, so we married and now i am wondering is my marriage legal before ALLAH swt? I read that there is not marriage without a wali and i surely do not want to think that my marriage is legal if it is not, no matter if it has been 15 years or not. PLEASE help me and give me some peace in the regard. I need to know if I am doing the correct thing and if not then how can I repair this before ALLAH swt?
Sincerely,
dabongw

Assalaamu alaikum can you please explain what it the hadeeth about the prohibition of a woman taking her clothes off in other than her husbands home mean. Does this refer to using that bathroom as well.
Also, There was a man and woman who made nikkah over the phone threw a proxy (He used to live there and knows the girls family and have seen her before when she was a bit younger) but have did not and could not consumate immediatley because they both lived in other countries across sea from each other. Because of them living in other countries there were difficulties in the paperwork getting done and approved for her to enter his country. It took more than a month for them (husband and first wife) to get her to his country. Now she wants to know if her husband's first wife owns her that month or so that they had trouble getting her there. Please keep in mind that they did not consumate yet. We need clarification as this is causing the first wife stress but insha Allah she wants to do the right thing.

Assalamu Alaikum R. Va Barkata Hu,

Please clarify me in regard to the talaq, if any one says three time talaq in single sitting is it treated as rulling of talq or it will be treated as one, the talaq must have said due to the lack of knowledge and also due to the ignorent also due to the state of anger

Kindly enlighten to me

The situation:

I am my husband's second wife and we have been married for seven years now, masha'Allah. I live with my co-wife, my husband, and their four children. Since the beginning of our marriage my husband has promised to get me my own place and I have been waiting patiently for this. I have had to wait so long over the years because of financial issues, moving overseas and things like this. I try not to remind him too often about his promise to get me my own place, because I don't want to stress him out.

Last year he married another woman for a short time. At this time I reminded him about getting my own place and I told him that I didn't want to live with my co-wives. He said that he was going to get another place, but that I actually do not have a right to it. He said that if anyone deserved to have a place of her own it was his first wife, and that I may have to share an apartment with the new wife and continue to wait on getting one of my own. I told him that if he can't afford to get us each our own seperate places, then he shouldn't have remarried. After only a month, him and the third wife divorced due to issues related to something else, and I am still living with my co-wife, waiting to get my own place. Anytime, I bring up the subject, he gets agitated with me, and he makes me feel guilty for even asking him about it, (because my co-wife is fine with the living situation, but I am not). The only time he even mentions getting me my own place, is when he is thinking about remarrying a third wife. I feel like I am stuck because I agreed to live with my co-wife in the beginning.

My questions are:

Shouldn't my husband fulfill the promise that he made to me at the beginning of our marriage, before remarrying another woman?

Can a man force his wife to live with her co-wife if she doesn't want to?

How should I handle my husband's bad attitude whenever I remind him of fulfilling his promise?

Jazak'Allahu Khairun.

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Loving You for the Sake of Allah,
Amanda

On the Day of Resurrection Allah (The Most High) will say: "Where are those who loved one another for My glory? Today I will shade them in My shade on the Day when there is no shade but Mine." (Muslim)

Please diregard the above question. I received this in my email and I didn't realize that this forum was only meant for questions regarding Ramadan. Please excuse me.

Shukran.

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Loving You for the Sake of Allah,
Amanda

On the Day of Resurrection Allah (The Most High) will say: "Where are those who loved one another for My glory? Today I will shade them in My shade on the Day when there is no shade but Mine." (Muslim)

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"With good manners you understand the knowledge. With the knowledge, your actions are corrected. With actions, wisdom is obtained. With wisdom you understand zuhd (abstinence) and are granted its benefits. With zuhd comes abandoning the world. With abandoning the world comes desire for the Hereafter. With desire for the Hereafter the pleasure of Allaah-Mighty and Majestic-is obtained.: Iqtidaa'ul'Illmil'Amal(no.31).

bismillaah

salamu alaykum wa rahmatulllaah

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Dear Respected Shaikh:

I am confused as to the hadith below and its brief explanation from the Spubs website in relation to a few aspects.



From Abu Hurairah (radiyallaahu 'anhu) who said that Allaah's Messenger said: Whoever loves for Allaah and hates for Allaah, gives for Allaah and withholds for Allaah, then he has completed eemaan.

Reported by Aboo Dawood (Eng. Trans. Vol.3/p.1312/no.3664) and others, with chain of narration being

NOTES (Shaikh Ali Hasan al-Halabi)

So this hadeeth clearly shows the manner in which the believer conducts all his affairs and behaves in all his dealings, all of them are for Allaah and he does not give a share in any of them to other than Him, the One free and far removed from all imperfections. In all his affairs he distances himself from seeking after personal gain and enjoyment. In his loving and hating, giving and withholding he seeks only Allaah's pleasure and His Paradise. He does not seek after the worldly positions, wealth or reputation! Then if he falls into the like of this he repents and turns back (to his Lord)



As related to this hadith, how do I understand it in relation to:

a) loving my family
b) striving at work for a better position
c) trying to attain some wealth for savings
d) liking to provide myself and my family with good things (ex. car, furniture, new clothes, and other normal everyday items)

I'm asking this ONLY because I do these things listed on a daily basis and I fear that I am displeasing my Creator without knowing. I do them (ex. loving my family, striving at work for better position, trying to attain some wealth for savings, liking to provide myself and my family with good things) with a good intention, obviously, and not for showing off, but at the same time, I never distinctly clarified my intention within myself as to why I am doing it. So with this said, is what I am doing wrong and should I change it?

Jazzak Allah Khair,

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Yoonus Ibn 'ubayd (d.139H)-rahimahullaah-said:

"With good manners you understand the knowledge. With the knowledge, your actions are corrected. With actions, wisdom is obtained. With wisdom you understand zuhd (abstinence) and are granted its benefits. With zuhd comes abandoning the world. With abandoning the world comes desire for the Hereafter. With desire for the Hereafter the pleasure of Allaah-Mighty and Majestic-is obtained.: Iqtidaa'ul'Illmil'Amal(no.31).

Name of the Shaykh: Shaykh Abdullaah Al-Jarboo

Title of the Lecture: Questions and Answers - Part 2

Date of the Lecture: November 11, 2006

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