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January 9th, 2008, 19:57
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Re: Family & Children Issues
Question: I am a sister that is not able to conceive unless by artificial insemination i.e. by taking my egg and my husband's sperm and fertilizing it outside my womb and then placing it in my womb. What is the correct ruling on this ? Baarak Allaahu feekum.
Answer: This is what is called artificial insemination. There is some slight differing amongst the scholars but, the fiqh councils say that it is permissible with the condition that it is absolutely certain that the semen that will be mixed with the egg of the woman is the semen of the husband, and that there is no mix-up. So, if there is safety from any mix-up occurring then yes, it is permissible. There should be in this situation a doctor who is completely trustworthy and reliable and another doctor who should supervise that doctor, and it is preferable that the supervising doctor or both doctors be Muslims. However, if the doctor is known for his truthfulness, trustworthiness and reliability then it is not a condition that he is a Muslim, even though that would be better. To summarize, if the situation is safe from there being a mix-up then it is permissible as most of the scholars have said that it is permissible although there is some slight differing on the matter. Answered by: Shaykh Saalih as-Suhaymee حفظه الله Title of Lecture: General Questions & Answer Session Date of the Lecture: March 11th, 2006 Listen to Lecture: Click Here Read the Transcribed Lecture: Click Here Last edited by kanan : July 11th, 2008 at 11:55. 
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#3
January 10th, 2008, 12:54
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Re: Family & Children Issues
Question: The Shaykh hafidhahullaah was asked, if the child wanted to go and see his father or the father wanted the child to come and see him and this amount is around USD 600, who has to pay for this?
Answer: The Shaykh hafidhahullaah said the usl i.e. the way it normally should be, is that the father takes care of the child and pays for him. But in this situation, it's on the mother. She spends on him while he is in iqaamah i.e. while he's with her in the place that she's at. But if the other parent wants him to come to where he is, then that parent is the one that pays. So it would be the father in this case. Answered by: Shaykh Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan Title of Lecture: Explanation of the hadeeth "Ad-Deen An-Nasihah" Date of the Lecture: June 4, 2005 Listen to Lecture: Click Here Read the Transcribed Lecture: Click Here Last edited by s_sana : November 18th, 2008 at 20:07.
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January 10th, 2008, 12:58
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Re: Family & Children Issues
Question:At what age is a father allowed to see the 'awrah of his daughter and the mother of her son?
Answer: The Shaykh hafidhullaah went on to say that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa alaa alihi wasalaam said: "order your children to pray at seven and hit them at ten". [1] And as for the women (the translator mentioned that he was not sure if this is a hadeeth or not) in the sharh (legislation), the girl is considered a woman after nine so looking at the private parts of the children after seven is not permissible for the man to look at his daughter or for the mother to look at her son. Answered by: Shaykh Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan Title of Lecture: Explanation of the hadeeth "Ad-Deen An-Nasihah" Date of the Lecture: June 4, 2005 Listen to Lecture: Click Here Read the Transcribed Lecture: Click Here [1] Reported by Ab Daawud in Kitaab as-Salaat (#495) authenticated by Shaykh Al-Albaanee rahimahullaah in Irwaa-ul-Ghaleel (#298) Last edited by s_sana : November 18th, 2008 at 20:15.
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#5
January 10th, 2008, 20:39
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Re: Family & Children Issues
Question: If a couple have a daughter who is openly committing sin and has had unlawful children from this behavior and she is still behaving in this manner what stance should they take with her - should they continue their support or should they boycott her?
Answer: In respect to these illegitimate children that result from adultery or fornication are attributed to their mother i.e. they follow their mother in terms of their lineage and there is no relation to the fornicator. Based on this the children have no sin and there is no prohibition of spending money on them; for instance, the money for their clothing etc. As for the relation with their daughter they should do their best to give her da'wah and call her to desist from this matter (her behavior) because it is a grave matter. It is obligatory upon them to give her naseehah (advice). As for the issue of her acceptance or rejection of the advice then that returns to Allaah سبحانه و تعالى. The slave is commanded to give da'wah as needed, but the guidance and acceptance is from Allaah سبحانه و تعالى. Indeed Allaah is able to guide and with Him is the tawfeeq. Answered by: Shaykh Abdullaah Abdur-Rahmaan Al-Ghudayyaan Title of Lecture: The Four Principles by Muhammed Ibn Abdul-Wahhaab explained by Shaykh al-Ghudayyaan (class #1) Date of the Lecture: February 4, 2006 Listen to Lecture: Click Here (`Aqeedah class #1) Read the Transcribed Lecture: Click Here Last edited by s_sana : November 18th, 2008 at 20:17.
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January 10th, 2008, 21:03
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Re: Family & Children
Question: Is it permissible for the female teachers to teach the older boys in Islaamic schools as the school administration cannot afford teachers and separate buildings for boys and girls?
Answer: The principle is that the males teach the males and the female teach the female. It is probably possible to change the time where the females teach the females and the males teach the males by changing the time even though it is extended. Answered by: Shaykh Abdullaah Abdur-Rahmaan Al-Ghudayyaan Title of Lecture: The Four Principles by Muhammed Ibn Abdul-Wahhaab explained by Shaykh al-Ghudayyaan (class #1) Date of the Lecture: February 4, 2006 Listen to Lecture: Click Here (`Aqeedah class #1) Read the Transcribed Lecture: Click Here This Question is also listed under FIQH Last edited by ummkulthoom : June 27th, 2008 at 18:00.
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#7
January 11th, 2008, 17:39
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Re: Family & Children
Question: What is the level of obligation in the Deen that a step-parent has to his/her stepchild? Is the stepmother obligated to teach the children the Deen and take care of them in other ways to the best of her abilities as their mother would?
Answer: If a man has a wife and she gives birth to his children and then she passes away or he divorces her and then he marries another, the relationship between the children and the new wife is that they are like 'those that are raised in the house' (line cut off)....... The boys will become muharram for the her and if she nurses them, in addition to being muharram they become children that are of fosterage because of nursing. If they have not yet attained the age of discretion - which is seven - they are with their mother. Once they reach this age of discretion, then it is taken to the court to decide who the child is going to be with - this is in respect to them being of the same Deen. If the religion is different, the child goes with the one whose religion is best or most sound. Answered by: Shaykh Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan Title of Lecture: Explanation of the aayah "...and be dutiful and kind towards the parents" Date of the Lecture: Saturday, July 16th, 2005 Listen to Lecture: Click Here Read the Transcribed Lecture: Click Here Last edited by s_sana : November 19th, 2008 at 06:04.
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#8
January 11th, 2008, 17:42
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Re: Family & Children
Question: What is the ruling on the husband who does not work and depends on the wife to buy things for the children?
Answer: The principle here is that providing financially for the wife and for the children is upon the father. However, if the lady offers to give something to him, whether it's concerning providing financial aid or clothing, this is something that she is doing out of the goodness of herself - and this is if the husband is able to do so and she still does this. However, if he is unable and she has the means then it is compulsory on her to spend on her children and to provide for them - clothing, shelter, drink if she is able to do so and this is looking at the state of the father and if he is unable to do so. If he is able, then it is lawful for her under the circumstance to give if she can do so and if he is unable, then it is compulsory on her to provide under the circumstances according to her ability. As for him, his relatives are the ones who are responsible for providing for him under these circumstances. Answered by: Shaykh Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan Title of Lecture: Explanation of the aayah "...and be dutiful and kind towards the parents" Date of the Lecture: Saturday, July 16th, 2005 Listen to Lecture: Click Here Read the Transcribed Lecture: Click Here Last edited by s_sana : November 19th, 2008 at 06:06.
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#9
January 12th, 2008, 07:04
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Re: Family & Children
Question: Is it allowed for the children to call their mother’s husbands as ‘daddy’ and in reality he is not his father?
Answer:The Shaykh said: “If he does this and his intent is that this person is his father, this is not lawful – because it is not lawful for someone to attribute himself to someone other than his real father. If it is something which is done simply out of affection, this is something that is lawful. So what is intended is they should look at the person’s intention – if he intends that this is his real father, it is not lawful. If it is just something, maybe out of affection, then it may be done.” Answered by: Shaykh Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan Title of Lecture: Question and Answer Session Date of the Lecture: Saturday, April 2nd, 2005 Listen to Lecture: Click Here Read the Transcribed Lecture: Click Here Last edited by ummkulthoom : June 16th, 2008 at 06:53.
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#10
January 12th, 2008, 10:39
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Re: Family & Children
Question: I am a single 46 years old sister, I have been taking care of my family for about 30 years and now my family is settled and are happy, except myself. I live with my mother and she has a temper problem, she kicked me out of home and refused to take me back. So what is your advice? BarakaAllaahu feekum, could you please advise.
Answer: The Shaykh said: “She is rewarded for the kindness that she has shown to her family – whether this kindness is in the form of money or some other bodily benefits, for example, serving them. In respect to her mother, it is not lawful for the mother to send her daughter out of the home. If she does this, she is sinning. If the daughter has a share in the property, because of it being the wealth of her father, and she as a result has a right in it, she has a right to request herself remaining in the home, because of this right she shares in the property.” Answered by: Shaykh Abdullaah al-Ghudyaan Title of Lecture: Question and Answer Session Date of the Lecture: Saturday, April 2nd, 2005 Listen to Lecture: Click Here Read the Transcribed Lecture: Click Here Last edited by ummkulthoom : June 16th, 2008 at 07:03.
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#11
January 12th, 2008, 19:40
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Re: Family & Children
Question: Is it permissible to let children watch Arabic cartoons for teaching purpose?
Answer: Regarding the children watching cartoons for teaching purposes as mentioned in the question i.e. as a form of educating the children, then Inshaa'Allaah there is nothing wrong with this. Perhaps allowing the children to watch cartoons for educational purposes may be a breath of fresh air for the children and also a breath of fresh air for the parent. It may give them some time to enjoy themselves and time to play apart from the normal ways of teaching. This is if it was as mentioned in the question i.e. if it is used for educational purpose. However, you find that there are certain cartoons which teach children how to steal and how to kill and there are cartoons which have no benefit in them; these types are those which the parent should keep their children away from as this is nurturing which is not beneficial. Rather, it will corrupt the children, and it is incumbent upon the parent to keep their children away from these types of cartoons. As for the cartoons that the children can benefit from as a form of teaching and educational tool then Inshaa'Allaah there is nothing wrong with this. Answered by: Shaykh Wasiullaah 'Abbaas Title of Lecture: As-Seerah an-Nabawiyyah Date of the Lecture: January 30th, 2007 Listen to Lecture: Click Here Read the Transcribed Lecture: Click Here Last edited by ummkulthoom : June 16th, 2008 at 07:03.
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#12
January 12th, 2008, 19:43
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Re: Family & Children
Question: Is it permissible for little girls to play with baby dolls? Some parents say that these are images or could be used as idols. This is what is commonly mentioned in America in relation to these types of toys such as the Barbie dolls, and here in Saudi Arabia they have what is called the Fula dolls which could probably be better because she is a Muslim, she has a khimaar, a jilbaab and everything else. However, the point is that some parents remove the head from the doll and then give it to the child, making it undesirable for the child to play with as the child doesn't want to play with a doll without a head. Is this type of doll to be looked at as an idol or an image or something that is impermissible for the children to play with?
Answer: If this toy or doll is the type of doll which is magnified or glorified like 'China dolls' or dolls which the child is not allowed to touch - perhaps it is made from wood or glass or it is placed in a particular box or something like that, then this is something that is prohibited. This is what is prohibited. As for the baby doll that is in the form of a girl or a boy or like this, and it is something that the child plays with and which the child throws around; something that you may find lying on the ground and the child picks it up and plays with it; then there is nothing wrong with this. `A'ishah رضي الله عنها had a toy horse with two wings which she used to play with; the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم acknowledged this and he never stopped her from playing with it. This is not the type of image/form which is prohibited in Islaam. The image/form that is prohibited is the one that is magnified or glorified and the one that no one should touch or play with. It may be in the form of a man or woman or like this. As for the toy that the child plays with, there is nothing wrong with it; it is not haraam because it is for children. The Shaykh حفظه الله added to this, that the legislation of Islaam has prohibited taking dogs as pets and has prohibited pigs from being eaten or taken as pets as it is itself something that is najis (impure). Due to this, it is not permissible to play with toys in the image/form of a pig, a dog or anything that the legislation of Islaam has prohibited. This is not appropriate. However, if it is in the form of a lion, a camel or any animal which Islaam has not prohibited then this is okay. Answered by: Shaykh Wasiullaah 'Abbaas Title of Lecture: As-Seerah an-Nabawiyyah Date of the Lecture: January 30th, 2007 Listen to Lecture: Click Here Read the Transcribed Lecture: Click Here Last edited by ummkulthoom : June 16th, 2008 at 07:04.
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January 13th, 2008, 07:12
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Re: Family & Children
Question: Children who have not reached the age of puberty if they commit major sins are they accountable?
Answer: The Shaykh حفظه الله responded by saying that children who did not reach the age of puberty are not held responsible or accountable for their actions or deeds. However, they are to be ordered to do the good and they are to be prohibited from practicing the evil and they are to be encouraged to practice good manners. And they are to be encouraged to obey and practice obedience to Allaah سبحانه و تعالى. This is due to the saying of the Messenger of Allaah صلى الله عليه و سلم: "Order your children to establish the prayers when they are seven and beat them for it when they reach the age of ten".[1] Answered by: Shaykh 'Abdur-Rahmaan Al-Ajlaan Title of Lecture: Brotherhood and Q&A Session Date of the Lecture: February 10th 2007 Listen to Lecture: Click Here Read the Transcribed Lecture: Click Here [1] Reported in Sunan Abi Daawood 1/133 (#495). Shaykh al-Albaani رحمه الله says with a Hasan-Saheeh sanad. [Also recorded by Ahmad and al-Hakim. As-Syuti has give in a notation signifying that it is authentic. Al-Albaani رحمه الله has graded it Hasan. See Saheeh al-Jaami' 2/1021 (#5868)] Last edited by ummkulthoom : June 16th, 2008 at 07:06.
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#14
January 14th, 2008, 01:20
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Re: Family & Children
Question: A sister has recently started practicing Islaam, however she faces much trials with her family at home. She stopped her Psychology degree due to free mixing and sometimes being alone with her male tutor. It has made her parents unhappy. Is it permissible to resume her degree to please her parents? Also, how do you advise that she deals with her family?
Answer: It is upon all Muslims whether male or female, to be keen on being kind and beneficent to their parents. This is what Allaah تبارك وتعالى ordered with in surah al-'Ankaboot: وَوَصَّيْنَا الْإِنسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ حُسْناً
{And We have enjoined on man to be good and dutiful to his parents'} [al-'Ankaboot 29:8] And in surah Luqmaan, Allaah تعالى says: وَوَصَّيْنَا الْإِنسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُ وَهْناً عَلَى وَهْنٍ
{And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship'} [Luqmaan 31:14] However, if the parent orders a Muslim to disobey Allaah or with a form of disobedience to Allaah, then there is no obedience to the parent in this case due to the saying of the Messenger of Allaah صلى الله عليه وسلم: "There is no obedience to the creation in disobedience to the Creator."[1] Answered by: Shaykh 'Abdur-Rahmaan Al-'Ajlaan حفظه الله Title of Lecture:Questions and Answers Session Date of the Lecture: December 14th, 2006 Listen to Lecture: Click Here Read the Transcribed Lecture: Click Here [1] Reported by Ahmed in his Musnad (#1095), Shaikh Al-Albaanee says saheeh in Jaami' as-Sagheer (#7520) and in Mishkaatul-Masaabeeh (#3696). Last edited by ummkulthoom : June 16th, 2008 at 07:15.
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#15
January 16th, 2008, 15:44
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Re: Family & Children
Question: Could you please tell us the ruling on young children learning about Islaam and Ramadaan through nasheeds, videos, cartoons and the like?
Answer: Wallaahi this issue has spread in the Muslim world today. It started as a means of teaching but now it is a form of material enjoyment. They are not able to do without it and this is really bad as it will lead to the days of the Sufis – where they used to worship Allaah by anaasheed and they called it Islaamic songs. There are no Islaamic songs. Yaa Ikhwan, its best to teach the children whether today or twenty thousand (20,000) years from now, in the way which fourteen (14) centuries ago, the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم used to deal with the children. For example, he صلى الله عليه وسلم told ‘Umar ibn Abi Salamah, his step child [24]: يا غلام، سمِّ الله، وكل بيمينك، وكل مما يليك
He taught him something which was good for him. He did not make him sing nor did he صلى الله عليه وسلم sing for him. Also, the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم told ‘Abdullaah ibn ‘Abbas: يا غلام إني أعلمك كلمات احفظ الله يحفظك احفظ الله تجده تجاهك
…until the end of the hadith.[25] This hadith today, (words unclear it sounds like: “degrees of speech are being done on it. Teach Deen.”) Notice how this hadith is given to a little boy – why? So that he would grow up with this understanding; let them (our children) grow up with Qur’aan, recitation and du’aa – teach them what will benefit them. These things – anasheed and cartoons will make them happy because they don’t differentiate between good and bad, but they will love it and they will live with it until they die. These things will remain (in their minds). As Shaykh Muhammad Mukhtar ash-Shanqiti حفظه الله said in a lecture when he was asked about the anasheed for the students of tahfeez (memorization), he said “No, don’t make it a hobby for them because what will happen is whenever anasheed is found they will come and when anasheed is stopped they will turn away from Qur’aan” – they turn away from tahfeez (memorization), they turn away from religion. That’s what we observe. Look to the ‘Ulamaa. Do you want your child to be from amongst the ‘Ulamaa? Okay, take the biography of Shaykh Ibn Baaz and the biography of Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen and see how they grew up. I challenge anyone to show me that Shaykh Ibn Baaz, Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen, Shaykh al-Albaani, Shaykh Muqbil, Shaykh Fawzaan, Shaykh Luhaydaan grew up listening to anasheed or cartoons. No! they grew up in a serious manner. They were in the halaqah (circles, sittings) of the shuyuukh; and in the house their mother reviewed what they studied and encouraged them in increasing in memorizing the Qur’aan and studying the Sunnah. They gave them sweet etc. (as an incentive) because they wanted to encourage them, and that is why when they became adults they became more serious than others. Shaykh Ibn Baaz said that when the children used to play he always used to stay with the Qur’aan. Akhi, Subhanallaah, who are the children who were with the Shaykh? We don’t know them; he didn’t mention any of the scholars of today who were his friends in boyhood. He did not mention them and this means that all those children went only to the dunya (got caught up in worldly affairs), but by staying with the Qur’aan he رحمه الله became the noble ‘Aalim, the noble Imaam of his time. This also pertains to the other great and grand ‘Ulamaa. You will see some old People of Knowledge today encouraging anasheed and when you go back to their childhood you find them with anasheed. They used to watch cartoons and that’s why even now with their white beards, grey hair, bent back, holding the stick and speaking very broken they are still saying anasheed. Subhanallaah! This is because they grew up with it and they lived with it; but the other scholars are always saying “Qur’aan, Qur’aan” and “hadeeth, hadeeth”. So decide what you want your child to be like when he becomes a man or a woman and then work from now to achieve this, as they say: يشب فتى الفتيان فينا على ما كان عوده أبوه
The young will become young (grow into adolescence) as he was raised by his father (upon what his father got him accustomed to) when he was a boy. If he was left to anasheed and cartoons he will love it and grow up with it and live with it. Wallaahi, I saw brothers in the Jaami’ah (University) and some of them were in the Faculty of Hadeeth playing games on the mobile phone or on the computer. Subhanallaah, is this what they are created for, they are Taalibul ‘Ilm (Students of Knowledge). When I asked them why, I found out that from their boyhood days they lived with that. However, notice that those people who are always involved in seeking knowledge, teaching knowledge and busy in Qur’aan recitation – you always see when they become adults – men or women, and when they become old you always see them in those fields and people will have a need for them. But people of anasheed nobody needs them. Yaa Ikhwaan we have to realize the difference between what Allaah تعالى created us for and work towards it, and what is to be found from enjoyment. Wallaahu A’lam. Answered by: Shaykh Muhammad al-Maliki Title of Lecture: Ramadaan 1427 = 2006 Date of the Lecture: Saturday, October 14th, 2006 Listen to Lecture: Click Here Read the Transcribed Lecture: Click Here [1] “O boy! Mention the Name of Allaah and eat with your right hand, and eat of the dish what is nearer to you.” Reported in Saheeh al-Bukhaari, Kitaab at-At’imah (#5061) and Saheeh Muslim, Kitaab al-Ashribah (#2022) [2] “Young man, I shall teach you some words (of advice): be mindful of Allaah, and Allaah will protect you. Be mindful of Allaah and you will find Him in front of you…” Reported as part of a longer hadith. Shaykh al-Albaani رحمه الله says Saheeh in Saheeh al-Jaami’ (#7957). Also found in an-Nawawi’s 40 Hadeeth as hadeeth #19. Last edited by ummkulthoom : June 17th, 2008 at 11:07.
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January 16th, 2008, 15:54
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Re: Family & Children
Question: Is it okay to leave the children with diapers soiled with defecation as a lesson (as a punishment) while potty training?
Answer: Wallaahi, taking care of children is given to (the responsibility of) the parents but they must not show harshness against the children as they are a weak creation and as you know, they don’t intend to do things, they don’t mean it. The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم guided the children, for example, When he sent Anas bin Maalik for something to bring he found Anas was late, so he came out of the house and found Anas playing with the kids. He patted him on his head and he said: yaa Anas he said smiling. He was smiling yaani the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم. He said Yaa Anas did you go for what I sent you to do? Anas said no Yaa RasoolAllaah.[1] He didn’t tell him anything and that’s why Anas said that he served Rasoolullaah for ten years. He never responded to anything that he did by asking ‘why you did this or why you didn’t do this?’ Also, he صلى الله عليه وسلم used to lead the Jama’ah and [/color]while in sujood, in prostration Hasan or Hussayn came and climbed over his shoulder and he remained there until the Sahaabah would think that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم is dying due to the long prostration he made, until the boy left. And after Salaah the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم used to tell the Sahaabah: my grandson was playing over my shoulder and I didn’t want to disturb him.[2] Subhanallaah, the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم was praying and he didn’t want to disturb the child who is playing, and he صلى الله عليه وسلم was leading the Jama’ah. But today people’s chests are very narrow – they don’t want to have mercy with the children. This is the way that the children are created – they like playing and sometimes they destroy things; you should just guide them and show them mercy, they like it. They like mercy, and if you show them some respect and you speak to them like the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم spoke to Abdullah ibn Abbas: يا غلام ‘O lad’. He said to ‘Umar ibn Abi Salamah يا غلام ‘O lad’, Subhanallaah. One day he came to Abu ‘Umayr, the boy who used to have a bird with him and one day he found him sad and crying. He صلى الله عليه وسلم asked someone what happened to Abu ‘Umayr and they said that his bird died. He صلى الله عليه وسلم went laughing to him and said: يا أبا عمير ماذا فعل النغير؟
What happened to the bird?[3] So he’s talking to him as if he is a man. And ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab said about raising the children: From the first year that the child is born until age seven it time for him to play, don’t tell him anything, and from the eighth year until fourteen guide him regarding what he should and shouldn’t do, and from fifteen until (word unclear) you leave him – he is a man now. When he is 20 years old he is a man, you don’t beat him or curse him, just deal with him as your friend. This is how the children should be raised and treated and dealt with. Don’t show them harshness and don’t prevent them joining others in parties or in playgrounds – let them go and then talk to them, let them see this as your being merciful. Tell them “see you did this wrong, but although you did that I was very merciful with you and I was very kind because I am your father or I am you mother, I love you and I want you to be the best, so listen to my advice, that’s why I allowed you to go and play that’s why I gave you the gift” – speak to them like that. They are very, very sensitive creations, so we need to deal with them the way the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم dealt with them. Wallaahu A’lam.Answered by: Shaykh Muhammad al-Maliki Title of Lecture: Ramadaan 1427 = 2006 Date of the Lecture: Saturday, October 14th, 2006 Listen to Lecture: Click Here Read the Transcribed Lecture: Click Here [1] Reference Pending [2] Reference Pending [3] Reported as part of a longer hadeeth in Saheeh al-Bukhaari, Kitaab as-Adab (#5778, 5850) and in Saheeh Muslim, Kitaab as-Aadaab (#2150). Last edited by kanan : July 11th, 2008 at 17:10.
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January 16th, 2008, 16:02
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Re: Family & Children
Question: Could you give the children any gifts for ‘Eed, or does it have to be clothes or money?
Answer: Wallaahi, anything that can bring pleasure to the children and even to the adult is good, as the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said: تهادواتحابوا
Give gifts and you’ll love each other.[1] The hadiyyah i.e. gift, opens the heart. This is well known, even to the kuffar. It is something that Allaah تعالى put in the hearts of mankind, even the kuffar; gifts opens the heart, that is well known. So give gifts to the children, give them clothes – new clothes, give them sweets, give them money, all of this is good. Even those who are very poor and cannot give anything, their smile is a big gift. As the Prophet صلى الله عليهوسلم said:
تبسمك في وجه أخيك صدقة
Your smile for your brother is a sadaqah. [2]That is the best gift. Wallaahu A’lam. Answered by: Shaykh Muhammad al-Maliki Title of Lecture: Ramadaan 1427 = 2006 Date of the Lecture: Saturday, October 14th, 2006 Listen to Lecture: Click Here Read the Transcribed Lecture: Click Here [1] Shaykh al-Albaani رحمه الله says Hasan in Saheeh al-Jaami’ (#3004). [2] Shaykh al-Albaani رحمه الله says Saheeh in Saheeh at-Targheeb wat-Tarheeb Vol. 3. (#2685). Last edited by ummkulthoom : October 1st, 2008 at 06:15.
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January 18th, 2008, 20:20
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Re: Family & Children
Question: I have a question regarding taking a child of one of my neighbours to a non-Muslim school. Her mother is working and not able to take her. The child goes to public school as the Muslim schools here are very expensive and the mother is unable to pay the tuition. In this non-Muslim school they teach the children haraam things. Am I in a state of sin for doing this as I drive the car and take her to and from school every day. The mother is not religious and does not teach her daughter religious matters.
Answer: The Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said:“Each of you is a shepherd over your flock. The imam is a shepherd and responsible his flock, the man is a shepherd over his family and responsible for them, the woman is a shepherd over her husband’s household and responsible for those under her care. Everyone is a shepherd and responsible for those under their care.”[1] This mother has a legal Islaamic responsibility to look after her children and it is not lawful for her to send her children to a school that teaches them matters that are prohibited. Rather, it is compulsory upon her to teach them what will benefit them from matters of their Deen. Answered by: Shaykh Abdullaah Abdur-Rahmaan Al-Ghudayyaan Title of Lecture: The Four Principles by Muhammad ibn Abdul-Wahhaab Date of the Lecture: March 4, 2006 Listen to Lecture: Click Here (Class #3) Read the Transcribed Lecture: Click Here [1] Shaykh al-Albaani says Saheeh isnad in Adab al-Mufrad 1/83 #212 with the wording: كلكم راع وكلكم مسؤول عن رعيته فالأمير راع وهو مسؤول والرجل راع على أهله وهو مسؤول والمرأة راعية على بيت زوجها وهى مسؤولة ألا وكلكم راع وكلكم مسؤول عن رعيته Last edited by kanan : July 11th, 2008 at 20:54.
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January 19th, 2008, 04:22
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Re: Family & Children
Question: We have some teachers who beat and mistreat children mentally and physically. Our children are in trauma and so frightened to attend their lessons. The little ones being called out their names with foul languages, imitating their speech and under "disciplinary actions” their ’awrah is being exposed. They claim this is the way of the Sahaabah. What is your naseehah?
Answer: Regarding this issue, the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said “Command the children to pray at seven and reprimand them at ten.” [1] The teacher’s disciplining of a student varies depending on the student’s age; and many methods are available. Disciplining by breaking bones due to beating and exposing the ’awrah is not permissible. Exposing one’s ’awrah is haraam and it is not permissible for one to look at another person’s ’awrah, except between the husband and wife, but other than this it is not permissible. There is no problem in certain circumstances where there is a need e.g. if one is undergoing some sort of medical treatment. However, for the teacher to expose the student’s ’awrah and apply the punishment such that the teacher or students sees the child’s ’awrah there is no doubt that this is haraam (prohibited). To attribute this to the Companions and the Taabi’een is no doubt a lie. This teacher is being sinful by attributing this to the Companions and the Taabi’een; and also by using a type of punishment that is unlawful. Answered by: Shaykh Abdullaah Abdur-Rahmaan Al-Ghudayyaan Title of Lecture: The Four Principles by Muhammad ibn Abdul-Wahhaab Date of the Lecture: April 1, 2006 Listen to Lecture: Click Here (Class #4) Read the Transcribed Lecture: Click Here [1] Ahmad Vol2. #6756; Abu Dawuud Vol. 1, #495. Shaykh al-Albaani says Saheeh in Irwaa al-Ghaleel Vol. 2 #298 with the wording: حديث عمرو بن شعيب عن أبيه عن جده أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال مروا أبناءكم بالصلاة وهم أبناء سبع سنين واضربوهم عليها لعشر وفرقوا بينهم في المضاجع Last edited by kanan : July 11th, 2008 at 20:54.
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January 19th, 2008, 04:24
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Re: Family & Children
Question:My parents conceived me outside of wedlock, but got married before I was born, therefore I was born in wedlock. Both of them are non-Muslims, am I to be attributed to my father or to my mother?
Answer: If a man commits zinaa (adultery or fornication) with a woman and she becomes pregnant and he marries her whilst she is pregnant this marriage contract is not valid and the child is not attributed to the man. The Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said: “The child is to the bed and the stone is for the adulterer” [1] i.e. the child is attributed to the mother and her relatives – her parents, children and those outside her nuclear family. The adulterer has no relationship with the child and as mentioned before, the marriage contract is not valid. Answered by: Shaykh Abdullaah Abdur-Rahmaan Al-Ghudayyaan
Title of Lecture: The Four Principles by Muhammad ibn Abdul-Wahhaab Date of the Lecture: April 1, 2006 Listen to Lecture: Click Here (Class #4) Read the Transcribed Lecture: Click Here [1] Narrated by abu Hurayrah in Saheeh al-Bukharee Vol. 4 #6432 with the wording below. Also found in Muslim, Abu Dawuud, at-Tirmidhi and others.
الولد للفراش، وللعاهر الحجر Last edited by kanan : July 12th, 2008 at 07:27.
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